Recipe for The Best Way to Watch Sherlock

This is referring to the BBC show Sherlock with Benedict Cumberbatch and Martin Freeman. 

Ingredients

1 Dark Room
1 Laptop
1 Pair of Headphones
1 Full Day
1 Netflix Account
0 People with you

Steps

1. Separate a whole day for this event. You know that once you watch one episode you’ll want to watch all three seasons. And that is doable in one day since each episode is 1 hour and a half and there are 3 episodes per season. (That is 13.5 hours)

2. Make sure you make yourself comfortable in a dark room with your lovely laptop. I recommend having no one with you so you can focus entirely on the show. Remove any TV talkers (those friends you know talk during the show and are quiet during commercials)  from the room. Seriously, you’ll thank me for this one. You don’t want to miss a thing.

3. Log in to your Netflix account and search for Sherlock (the BBC version).

4. Plug in your headphones and adjust volume.
Side Note: Benedict is a phenomenal actor who can spit out a million words a second with a British accent. Even someone obsessed with the British accent may have trouble understanding him. Don’t feel bad if subtitles are necessary. 

5. Enjoy the greatest show to ever hit your television. Enjoy the flawlessness that is Benedict Cumberbatch and the epicness of the duo Benedict and Martin make.

6. Thank the amazing friend that recommended you watch that show. Thank them for having such great taste.

Note: Bathroom breaks will be necessary as well as food breaks. If you have snacks with you, make sure they are not crunchy so you can hold on to every word Benedict says. Every single word matters in that show. 

This is The Voice!

Hey Guys,

This post should have been written way earlier and is now a bit too late. But today has been crazy and I haven’t been feeling 100%, so better late than never. (Even though I did consider not posting this at all bc I’m so exhausted. I powered through just for you guys).

This week I’ve been trying to figure out what to write about, that is until I saw last night’s The Voice Finale performances and holy cow. First of all, let’s just establish that all Top 4 contestants can really sing! Like they can all REALLY sing. That alone was enough to make last night a good finale. But then the song choices were so on point that it made the night really great. The duos with the coaches made it even more great. But best of all was the new thing, they allowed each finalist to perform an original song that they had written or someone else had written. This made the night completely epic. And now here’s where I talk about my order for the night and what I thought of each performance. So while we wait for the results tonight let’s take a look back at last night.

4. Craig Wayne Boyd

He is my number 4 mostly because I am not a country music fan at all. But with that being said, I have an immense respect for Craig. He has an amazing voice that is going to kill it in the Country industry, I am sure! But also, he is a single parent and that to me is incredibly sweet. Especially since one of his songs was dedicated to his life, his son. Below are his three performances.

I will say that when his original song came on, i danced along to it.

3. Damien

I really like Damien. I think he’s a good guy and I know he has an amazing set of pipes on him. But the one thing I would say is, he always looks like he’s about to cry. For every song, happy or sad. So for me that really kills the songs sometimes. Last night however I think he did really great and stuck to what he does best. He really can move you and make you feel every word he sings. However compared to the other guys, I think they outshone him.

This duet was amazing. Simply amazing.

And his original song was pretty awesome too. I think it was a great fit for him. (Again this night was so full of great talent ranking them is hard.)

2. Chris Jamison 

Now for most of the season my top 3 have been: Chris, Taylor and Matt. (In no particular order.) But now that the end has come I have to finally decide who I wanted as my number 1 and number 2. Last night was Chris’ best night yet, and he’s been improving every single night. He went from being this shy guy to a guy full of swag and confidence on stage. He started out singing love songs and realized his talents are for the sexy pop soul songs, like JT, Bruno Mars and Michael Jackson. He kills those types of songs. The song choices Chris made for last night could not have been better.

One of my favorite JT songs done beautifully.

First of all had NO idea this song was by Robin Thicke. (I am not a fan of his) But I LOVE this song. And again the pop soul style fits perfectly with Chris.

And his Original Velvet is SO GOOD! I have it on my iPod and have been jamming to it. It’s like they wrote that song for him.

1. Matt McAndrew

Now this boy basically from day 1 has earned a special place in my heart. Not because I think he’s hot, but because every time he sings, I feel things deep down.It’s like he sings to my soul. It’s a strange concept to explain, but I hope you get what I mean. Every time he sings I melt and all I can hear is his beautiful voice. He definitely, in my opinion, did the best of the night. And has been doing so throughout the season. He takes chances and really showcases what he is really about. Like they said he’s an adorable puppy covered in tattoos.

His cover song was everything. If it doesn’t move you to almost tears or at least goosebumps, something is wrong.

You wouldn’t know this next song, unless you’ve seen the movie. WHICH I HAD. So when Adam said they were doing this song I screamed. It’s my favorite song from the movie, because it is simply so beautiful. And seeing Matt do it, was everything.

And finally his original. Which, let me point out, Matt was THE only one who actually performed a song he wrote. So on top of singing like an angel, he is an artist. He writes his own music and then delivers them beautifully. I am completely and utterly obsessed with his single. Go buy it and listen to it a million times. And then watch the music video, because every time I did I fell more in love with him.

Also if you don’t have it yet, buy his album that he released before this show. It’s very good. But I can’t wait for his next album!!

Anyways, let’s go enjoy the show and hope whoever you were rooting for wins. In my case. MATT MCANDREW!

Much love always,

xx

“Marry The Complicated Girl”

Good Morning Everyone,
Often times I enjoy writing about how I thoroughly disagreed with an article and I come to my safe space (my lovely blog) to rant. But today, it is completely different. This week, I read an article that the entire time I was reading it I was nodding my head in agreement. With everything. That is extremely rare, but I guess this article just spoke to me.

The name of the article is “8 Reasons Why You Should Marry The Complicated Girl.” (You can read it here.)  The title itself might give you a hint as to why I loved this article so much.

This article was not about actually crazy girls, like the ones that would smash your car by a misunderstanding. Those are legit crazy girls. And this is not a diss on simple girls. Those girls exist to create some harmony in the world, so I think they are essential too. So read the article before you continue reading my take on it.

One thing that is no secret about me is that I am a complicated person, but not in a bad way. I have ambitions, dreams and so much hope that often some people are a little intimidated by it. But truly what most guys are scared of is the fact that I have so much love to give out. That usually sends them running for the hills. Which, if you think about it, is quite sad that they are actually scared of someone caring deeply for them. I can’t help being the way that I am, and it’s not something I intend on changing about myself. I have been called delusional, crazy, obsessive, overbearing, and psychotic by guys. And at the time I took it personally, so personally these words have stayed with me. But I no longer let them affect me, because I realized they just didn’t understand me. I have a huge heart, with a lot of love to give.

So the reason I loved this article is because it explains everything you need to know.

“Carrie is complicated. She doesn’t put up with not getting everything she deserves. She craves more from Big. She has opinions and a life and dreams for the two of them together. She sometimes argues with him at inopportune times because she’s passionate and emotional, and she cares.”

I think its vital for a girl to have her own opinions and stand up for what she believes in, even if that is different than her partners. Women must have their own life outside of the relationship, just like the man should. Both parties should have their own set of friends, and go out with those people. If both parties want to work, they should! Much like men, women should have their individual aspirations and goals in life. And sometimes, guys misinterpret that. They need to learn that just like themselves, women should have their own things going on.

“An unevolved man or a boy will always want the simple girl. He doesn’t want to have to work hard for anything, especially not a relationship. He doesn’t want to be challenged or confronted.”

This not referring to playing hard to get. Playing games is childish and immature. Work hard in this case means a woman that will challenge a man. A woman that will ask questions and will propose to do things her way for a change. She will stand her ground when necessary, but also compromise on things.

“But, a real man knows that by being with a complicated girl, he will be better for it. At times, this girl can be difficult, but he knows her intentions are good. With healthy communication, the relationship will become stronger….No one will encourage you to follow your dreams more than her. You will have many deep conversations with her that make you question your beliefs and ideas. She will outsmart you on many occasions. It won’t always be easy, but it will be more satisfying and always entertaining.”

Exactly that, she will push you to be the best person you can be.

“Complicated girls are creative and, at times, emotional. She may also have a touch of what some people call “crazy” or “bitchy.” But, no one will love you better. No one will make love to you with as much passion.”

Bottom line is, these girls are often misunderstood. These girls will have life behind their eyes and will have a passion to do what she wants. And you can be sure that if you gain her trust and love, there isn’t anything she won’t do for you. She will love you unconditionally and do everything she can to give you the best life possible. It won’t necessarily be a smooth sailing life, but I can guarantee it will be a life worth living.

So I’ll end this with the 8 reasons to marry the complicated girl.

“But, if you want to be the best you can be and expand your mind and capabilities, marry the complicated girl.

Marry the girl who tells you exactly what she expects and follows through.

Marry the girl who demands your respect.

Marry the girl who can talk politics, even if her opinions are different from yours.

Marry the girl whose eyes flicker with passion about a number of different subjects.

Marry the girl who won’t let you get away with slacking on your talents.

Marry the girl who pushes you to be better every day.

Marry the girl with whom you sometimes fight.

Marry the girl who is your equal or greater.”

I can promise you we are worth it. We make life exciting and adventurous. We create a bit of turmoil but with the best of intentions. Deep down we are kind and fierce. If you give us a chance, I can guarantee your life will be amazing.

Much love always,

xx

Real Life Good Luck Chuck

Good Morning Everyone,

Okay, guys, let’s get super serious. I have a serious problem. Guys, I’M THE REAL LIFE GOOD LUCK CHUCK!

Now, before you start making making fun of me, hear me out. Every guy that I had a casual fling with or “dated” briefly for a month or so , got a girlfriend within the month of ending things with me. This has been definitely true for 6 guys if not more . Those are just the ones I can name. And if it wasn’t within a month, then it was the next girl they were with. (Or at least I think it was the next girl, Facebook stalking can only tell you so much.) But the point is, more and more I noticed guys getting together with long term girlfriends. And when I say long term, I mean legit long term. Some for a year or so, and some are still dating those same girls.

So you can see, I am the real life Good Luck Chuck. Guys have a little fling with me and then get serious with the next girl. And funny enough, I’m the girl always looking for something serious. And while they do that, I’m sitting here single as can be.

But you know what, it’s cool. While everyone is in a relationship, I have unlimited freedom to do whatever I want. And honestly, that’s what keeps me from getting sad. So all my single ladies, enjoy your freedom, cause you’ll have 50 years or more to spend with the love of your life. :)

Much Love always,

xx

So, Thanks!

Hey Guys,

I know it’s Friday and not the typical day posts come out (those are Tuesdays and Thursdays by the way!) but I just had to put a little note up!

I wanted to say a HUGE thank you. If this is your first time here, or if you read sometimes or if you read every single day, THANK YOU! As of yesterday I posted my 100th post and now have 72 followers. It may not seem like much but trust me it’s huge to me. I know sometimes I fail at posting every Tuesday and Thursday but I am human. I work and I try to keep up a Youtube Channel while living at home and helping out the family. It’s no easy feat but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

 

 

So again, THANK YOU SO MUCH for the support and love.

Much love always,

xx
PS- Here is another picture of a puppy as a thanks!

The Flash vs The Arrow

Hey Guys,

Let me just preempt this by saying that there will be some spoilers if you have not watched both episodes, so before you keep reading PLEASE GO WATCH! Like right now. GO! I’ll wait…

Okay done? Good! Let’s begin!

One thing you need to know about me is this, I LOVE moving pictures. That means anything from Gifs, videos, television shows to movies. I find expressing an idea through a medium that allows us to actually visualize a creation is amazing. So it’s no surprise that on a weekly basis I follow up to 19 shows at a time. Yes you read that correctly, 19 SHOWS! If you want to find out all the ones I was watching this fall I made a whole video on it. (You can watch it here.)

But today we’re not here to talk about my obsession with television shows, we are here to discuss two shows in particular, The Flash and The Arrow. Two shows, that I must say have done a brilliant job not only with the casting and the script, but two shows that appeal to all demographics. From all the comic book lovers to all the girls swooning over Grant Gustin and Stephen Amell. And then the producers and writers had the brilliant idea of crossing over the two shows, which in my opinion was one of THE smartest ideas CW has ever had. Why was it such a great idea? Well let me enlighten you. (This post may be a little delayed due to the fact that I DVRed both episodes to watch them back to back.)

First, let’s discuss The Flash episode.

It begins like most episodes do with everyone happy and finding a bad guy to chase. Then Barry is back in his 9 to 5 job of working with the police force on a case. And then The Flash is off chasing this terrible guy, who can with his eyes make people SUPER pissed and let out all these things they have been suppressing. And just when we’re saying “Oh No, I don’t think Barry can handle this on his own…” guess who shows up? The Arrow! And can we just say what a GREAT entrance my friend. And then we see the Arrow team gathering and the face that a big man like Diggle makes of complete shock and a bit terrified of The Flash is HILLARIOUS! Then Felicity tells Barry what they’re really in town for and heads over to STAR Labs. Just like everyone else out there people at first are not happy with The Arrow because of his methodologies but Barry stands up for his friend. Then we have an inkling into who they’re going to be chasing on The Arrow.

In the midst of all of this Felicity convinces Oliver to partner with Barry and help him get rid of this bad guy. Also it’s important to note that Oliver decides that even though Barry has these metahuman capabilities that he needs training and he still has so much to learn to be the best he can be. I think this is a crucial moment for Barry to be grounded a bit and realize he is not at his best and there is still so much improvement to be done.

Even if his cockiness does get in the way a bit. Finally he learns the hard way.

Also we discover important info that Oliver is on Iris’s 3 Guys List. Which let’s be honest Oliver Queen is on all of our 3 Guys List.  But then The Flash’s episode takes on a dark aspect we’ve never seen in any other episode. Barry gets “infected” with the ‘release your suppressed emotions and tell us how you really feel’ virus. And for the first time we see all the ugly things Barry has been holding in. He tells Oliver off, he tells the captain to back off (and let’s be honest, Barry doesn’t get HALF of the appreciation he really deserves at the office.) and then my favorite he goes after Eddie. Eddie hasn’t been my favorite character mostly because he doesn’t believe in, then doesn’t like The Flash and the obvious reason he is keeping Iris from Barry, DUH! Not that I’m huge on Biris but I just want Barry happy. What we really see in Barry is that he is fed up with being unappreciated and overlooked. He wasn’t evil, he was just frustrated. Although the whole “you’re just jealous” thing to Oliver was a bit over the line (but Oliver didn’t take it to heart), everything else seemed  pretty reasonable. It allows us to see that Barry is just as human as all of us. And then it gets super awesome because we get to see the Flash and the Arrow duke it out in the middle of the street.

It was a brilliantly choreographed fight. And we get a bit of the humor from Diggle and Cisco making bets. But in the end we get the lovable and dorky Barry back even if the Flash has lost Iris’ approval. And then annoying Eddie puts out a squad to find The Flash. The guy makes one bad move and all of a sudden he is being hunted. It seems to be a reoccurring theme between Superhero shows.

The great thing about the cross over for this show was that The Flash often is full of laughs and smiles with few actual serious tones. The Arrow definitely brought in some darkness with hints of sarcasm. And while The Arrow at first was not approved by Dr.Wells and Joe, in the end everyone saw what Captain Lance and Laurel finally see in the Arrow. They might not agree with his methodology, but are glad for his help. Also the merging of the two teams, minus Roy, was really great to see. And the Arrow finally said out loud something only the viewers have seen that there is something off about Dr.Wells. I’m glad someone finally said it on the show and it’s someone who will have the teams back in case things go wrong. At the end Oliver gives Barry one last piece of advice, to let go of Iris. Because, and I quote  “Guys like us never get the girl.” And all our hearts start to cry because Olicity.

Both teams say their good byes and we are left with just Felicity asking Caitlin to break apart a DNA sample from the Canary’s (Sara) murder. And to end it all WE SEE RONNIE!! HE IS ALIVE AND ON FIRE!! OMG! I cannot wait for next week’s episode.

Now onto the Arrow. The Arrow is generally a very dark and often a little disturbing. But we love it entirely anyway.

Just like every episode we jump in straight to the point during the first few minutes of the episode. The boomerang yielding bad guy is being hunted by the team. They encounter A.R.G.U.S. at the house they are investigating. This is the first inkling we get of how serious things really are. Caitlin and Cisco show up at what used to be Queen Consolidated to help but also to check out the Arrow Cave. (The name quickly catches on.)

Cisco is immediately amazed with all the arrows and equipment they have. Once they figure out that the case is A.R.G.U.S. related they obviously go straight for Lyla for info. Let’s also point out that for most of the episode everyone says Lyla and Diggle are married and everyone keeps saying “they’re not married.” (FORESHADOWING) So while Diggle is with Lyla to get info, Digger (can we talk about how their names are SO similar) attacks. Arrow and Arsenal show up to save the day. But as they’re fighting a boomerang is coming straight for the team, and the Flash comes in to save them all.

At the Arrow Cave Barry puts together the bits of the boomerang so it can be studied. It turns out to be a super awesome complex weapon and Cisco is LOVING it.We learn that he is after Lyla for attempting to murder him. (It was a hard call but she had to make it for the greater good.)

After Oliver finally allows Barry to be a part of the investigation they’re all figuring everything out together. We also get glimpses of Oliver’s past. We see that he used to be scared to torture people and hurt others. But A.R.G.U.S taught him that it was necessary to do the hard things sometimes, when you don’t have the luxury of time.

Out on the field, Barry sees first hand Oliver’s methods and how harsh Oliver really gets. He questions Oliver’s methods and even starts second guessing his own faith that Oliver is inherently good. All the boys go out to find Digger while all the ladies stay in the Arrow Cave.

What Oliver finds out once he’s there is that Digger had set up a decoy to actually get Lyla in a weaker situation. He attacks the Arrow Cave and the ladies try to fend for themselves. Obviously the boomerang is incredibly dangerous and ends up hitting Lyla in the right shoulder.  Barry rushes her to the hospital and ends up saving her, but for a minute we all held our breath thinking: “was this the end for Lyla?” But of course the episode still had so much more to give. They finally track down Digger and confront him.

After tracking him down and confronting him they found out that he had planted 5 bombs all around Starling City. They have 90 seconds to diffuse the bomb. With the help of the team back at the base Barry finds the first bomb. With Cisco’s awesome planning skills he installed a camera that now allows the team to actually see what Barry is seeing. And that’s how they discover that all 5 bombs must be diffused at the same time.

Barry thinks about it and realizes he can’t be in five places at once. Or Can he? Then we are thrown back to Oliver fighting Digger.

And Barry finally realizes what he has to do. He has to get the rest of the team to the other bombs and they all need to cut the wire at the same time.

And just like that they save Starling City. We see the Arrow pin Digger to the post for the police to take him down. And the question everyone has been asking all episode finally becomes true. Diggle finally asks Lyla to marry him, again. The most badass couple ever.

Then we get a very tender moment between Barry and Oliver. Barry finally realizes why Oliver does things the way he does. And Starling City is partly at fault. It’s a tougher city and requires a bit more force. But the element to highlight is that Barry basically tells Oliver that he is a role model and inspiration to him. Barry tells Oliver he believes that he is fundamentally good and wants to do what is good for the city and he respects that. Also the STAR Lab team admits that because they deal with metahumans things never really seem so dark, that people could actually be this evil on their own. It brings a whole new aspect to Caitlin and Cisco’s world. Potentially preparing them for a future we think might happen. (I’m still trying to figure out if Dr. Wells is actually evil.)

The bonding of the team really shows.

Roy: It’s cool. You guys are fun.

Cisco: So are you guys. Well, you could be if you realized you’re working under a night club.

And it’s great because now both teams can work collectively and can relate to living this hard life that they lead. And it’s finally awesome to see Caitlin and Felicity have some female backup and friends. And can we talk about how freaking awesome it is to have two beautiful, intelligent, strong women that shine in a tv show full of men.

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The two teams really show each other some appreciation by presenting the other team with a gift. Oliver got another glass case to put Barry’s outfit whenever he’s in town. And Cisco made a better, lighter suit that allows Oliver to carry more things with him. It was truly a nice touch for both teams. And it wouldn’t be right to finish it off without a little hint of fun rivalry.

Oliver: You can’t expect me to believe that you don’t want to know once and for all who would win — me or you.
Barry: You mean if you don’t shoot me in the back?
Oliver: You gotta get over that, Barry.
Barry: OK. I have super powers. You have arrows. That run out.
Oliver: I have strategy and tactical awareness.
Barry: When I’m fighting you, it’s literally like you’re standing still.
Oliver: It’s tough talk, you ready to back it up?
Barry: Oh yeah.

One of the great things about the pairing up is Barry is the ying to Oliver’s yang. Barry is the light comedic relief for a dark and often grounding aspect which Oliver brings. But even more they balance each other out. When one is down the other inspires and makes him realize how important they are to their respective cities.

And as a comedic relief enjoy this!

I hope you all enjoyed this crossover as much as  I did. And to really drive the point home here’s one more.

Anyways this post has probably been the longest post ever. I honestly just loved this crossover so much I had to go on and on about it. I hope the pictures at least made it go by a little faster. Guys I have officially written 2310 words. CRAZY! Let me know what you think and if you guys liked this kind of post.

Much love always,

xx

To Quote or Not To Quote

Hey Guys,

So last week with the holidays I really didn’t have time to write a post! I’m sorry!! But I hope you all had lots to eat, I know I at least gained ten pounds from Thanksgiving Day alone, haha. But now that vacation time is over and we’re back to work things are still hectic, obviously. So today’s post is late but better late than never. But going through my notebook I found a really good page I wanted to post on here.

Sometimes you look for quotes to live by, or just good solid quotes to have around to look at or inspire you. Or even sometimes you come across a quote and you’re like “wow, this quote gets me, it’s me!” Well in one of my periods of intense reading, where I don’t put down a book, I wrote down some quotes from the books I had just read. So if you’ve been searching for the perfect quote, maybe this will help. I’ve also included my interpretation of the quotes, but you could read them in an entirely different way. If you do, please let me know what you think! :)

Teen Wolf

“Be your own anchor.”

(Often we find other people to be our rocks/anchors, but sometimes you have to be your own rock. Own up to your Strength.)

Ed Sheeran

“Love will come and love will go but you make it your own.” 

(People fall in love all the time and no two loves are the same. You shape the feeling of love to the person you are with and that’s a beautiful thing. It means every love is unique.)

If I Stay

“Sometimes you make choices in life, and sometimes choices make you.” 

(There is only so much you can control in life, and sometimes things happen that you can’t explain. ‘choices make you’ = everything happens for a reason and sometimes its within your control and sometimes it is not.)

The Fault In Our Stars (Be prepared for SEVERAL quotes, it’s a perfect book what do you expect?)

“Pain demands to be felt.”

(If we don’t take in the pain we don’t appreciate the good in the world.)

“Okay? Okay.”

(Its a classic from the book)

“I found my wish.”

(There are many things in life we wish for. In this case he never realized until he met her his true wish was to be in love with Hazel. Once he met her he knew.)

“As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly and then all at once.”

(Another classic. But this one is just so sweet to think that’s exactly how you fall in love. At first you are scared to truly love someone, but once you get over the fear you fall in completely and fully.)

“I’m in love with you and I’m not in the business of denying myself the simple pleasure of saying true things. I’m in love with you and I know that love is just a shot into the void, and that oblivion is inevitable and we’re all doomed and that there will come a day when all our labor has been returned to dust and I know the sun will swallow the only earth we’ll ever have and I am in love with you.” 

(I think this one is self explanatory. But in case you need a little summary here it is: tell someone you love them. One day we will all be gone and even though saying I love you are just words, SAY THEM WHEN YOU MEAN THEM!)

“Sometimes it seems the universe wants to be noticed.” 

(The world is a beautiful place and sometimes things happen so that you take a moment to really look at how beautiful this place really is.)

“Our little infinity.”

(When you love someone your time together is yours and only yours, and it’s a beautiful thing. And that time will live in your heart forever.)

“You don’t get to choose if you get hurt in this world, but you do have some say in who hurts you.”

(Getting hurt is inevitable, but believe it or not you do get a choice.)

Harry Potter

“It is our choices, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” 

(Even if you are not perfect at something, the heart behind it that made you choose that option says a lot about the kind of person you are.)

“Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” 

(This one I’ve applied to my own life many times. There is ALWAYS a bright side to things, sometimes you just have to dig for it.)

Divergent

“A brave man acknowledges the strength of the other.” 

(Being brave does not mean you are the strongest. It’s knowing that you may not be the strongest but still deciding to fight for what you believe in.)

“We believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.”

(…Need I say more?)

“Be brave.”

(Always fight for what you believe in. Even if all the odds are against you.)

“Becoming fearless isn’t the point. That’s impossible. It’s learning how to control your fear and how to be free from it.” 

(It is human to have fears. But you need to learn to accept them, control as much as you can so that that fear doesn’t inhibit you.)

“He is smart and brave and even though he saved me, he treated me like I was strong.”

(Four is one of my all time favorite male leads in a book for one simple reason: he protected Tris while still letting her fight her own fight. He helped her stand on her own two feet and be strong not for him but for herself. I must find a man like Four in this world.)

“Fear doesn’t shut you down, it wakes you up.”

(I love this about Tris. She lets the fear give her adrenaline.)

“I want to be brave and selfless and smart and kind and honest.” 

(A good human being is a combination of all the best things the factions had to offer. Four strives to live by this and so do I.)

“Like a wild animal, the truth is too powerful to remain caged.” 

(The truth always comes out, so always tell the truth.)

So I hope these have been inspiring, helpful or just fun to read. If you guys liked this kind of post let me know and I will try to do more of these in the future.

Much love always,

xx

Ghosts of the Pasts

Hey Guys,

I could write a whole long post on so many things that are whirling inside my mind, but to be perfectly honest I’m tired. And not the I’m physically tired because it’s 3pm, but the I just don’t want to deal with this anymore. You guys know that on here I write a lot based on my personal life, today’s post is no different. The only exception is I won’t write in detail what happened in my life. So let’s get into it.

So a lot of things happen in your life that allow you to grow and mature. Some good and some bad, but you learn from all of it. Throughout all the different stages of your life you meet people. Something I’ve been learning along the way is sometimes those people need to stay in those stages of your life. And maybe a few people out there are shaking their head like “No! I’ve been friends with my best friend for 15 years.” And my response is, how many of those do you have around? 1? 2? The bottom line is yes, we have a few select really good friend that go through several stages of life with you. And that is absolutely wonderful because you know you have found a true friend. And some, you really wish could be a part of that group but unfortunately circumstances happen where you realize they were really good for that stage, but they just aren’t a fit for your life anymore.

The hardest part is realizing that they no longer fit your life and letting them go. I’m here to tell you, it’s okay to do that. People are meant to come and go in your life. I’m a believer that each person comes into your life for a reason, and sometimes they accomplish that reason and they have to move on to other things. But the sad part is they don’t always realize when they have to move on.

This topic was brought into my life because today 2 people from my past that I have moved on from messaged me. I may not be doing the most mature thing by not responding and instead writing a blog post about it, but I want them to realize that it was great when they were in my life, but that time has passed. Also, I’m holding myself back from going off on them and wasting my time and energy on something I don’t want back. And maybe you think “How could she be so cold?? Just telling people off like that! She has no heart!” And I’m here to tell you, I do have a heart. A big one at that. I like to think I am a kind person. But once you have upset me and disrespected me, I no longer have space for you in my life. And that’s okay, because that is more of my attention and love I can share with new people.

So if you need to take a moment and reevaluate your life and take people out of your life, that’s okay. You may have been really great friends at some point, but even best friend relationships end sometimes. I’m here to tell you my life is now drama free, and full of happiness and excitement. It’s a really great time for me and I’ll be damned if I let ghosts of my past ruin it for me.

So I hope you have a wonderful day and take a second to really think if there are any toxic relationships you need to eliminate from your life.

Much love always,

xx

Walking Away is Hard, But Your Heart Will Thank You

In every girls life there are certain pivotal moments that change us for the rest of our lives. Moments that involve a certain matter we would all like to be experts on, love. Love is a driving force behind a lot of what we do. Anything from great leaps of faith to the biggest mistakes of our life are usually driven by love. And at the end of the day that’s okay, because our intentions are good even if the outcome isn’t. And if we get an outcome that we didn’t want, we learn and we grow from it.

Once I was asked “How do you do it? How do you just get back out there?”
And my answer is very simple. If I don’t, then what’s the  point. What’s the point in life, if you’re going to live scared and closed off. Life demands to be felt in every way. It wants to bring you exhilarating moments, as well as detrimental ones that make the good ones stand out. If you don’t put yourself out there in love, you never know what could have happened. And I am a person who can’t live with the ‘what if’s of the world. It would kill me to think of possibilities instead of living them.

But, what brought on this discussion? Why did I decide to write about this? Well, as I sat one night this week talking to a friend, reminder her of a piece of advice I have given her a million times, I decided there are probably a few more girls out there who need to hear this too.

As much as I am telling you to put yourself out there and love, there is one thing that is vital to grow. If a boy has wronged you, has made you feel less worthy or simply used you (and that goes for any sense of the way used) walk away. Walking away from someone you care or love, is quite possibly one of the hardest things you will ever put yourself through. Walking away, is final and means there is absolutely no looking back.

This friend of mine fell for a boy who used her and she couldn’t let him go. There is definitely some of you out there that can identify with her. I told her, stop talking to him and let him go. She said yeah sure thing no problem. I’m cutting him off for good. Two weeks later she gave in and was talking to him again. They became friends again and the whole thing happened again. She swore him off and next thing I knew she was still talking to him. It was a toxic detrimental relationship and in the process I saw her being broken down and I began to lose her. As a friend, it’s a hard thing to see. You feel completely helpless, like what your saying is in a different language and she just can’t understand you.

But here’s the bottom line, when I told her stop talking to him, that meant don’t talk to him for at least 6 months. Well, you may be thinking I’m all talk right now. Right? Well, here’s my argument: I’ve had two major relationships in my life and both of them were ended by me. In both cases we were crazy about each other, but for one reason or another I knew that relationship wouldn’t work. And I knew that I needed to end it. To be honest, it killed me a little. So I ended it, and with that I cut off all communication with them. My luck was both boys were very understanding and upset that they had no desire to talk to me. But trust me when I say, more than once I wanted to call them and tell them I was sorry and that I wanted them back. And chances are they would’ve taken me back. But deep down, I knew it wasn’t the right thing so I decided to suffer for the time being rather than all over later on. All of this is also true for little crushes that rejected me here and there. I wanted so badly to keep trying to reconnect with them but I knew it was better for my own heart not to.

I’m not sure if everything I’m saying is making sense or if it’s all coming out to rambles. What I’m trying to say is this:

If you’ve been hurt and you’re trying to move on from this guy, stop talking to him. Don’t text him, don’t call him, don’t Facebook chat him. If he reaches out to you, do NOT respond. Ignore him until you know deep down that if you talk to him you won’t fall back into your old ways. You need to give your own heart time to heal and move past this guy. And when I say you know deep down, that means it’s been 6 months you are completely and utterly over him and if he proposed to you right then and there you’d say no. That’s when you know, you’re over them. This is vital to make you stop falling back into the same patterns.

Just remember, there is someone out there who will value you and cherish you and love you unconditionally. This guy who uses you and keeps you around for his ego is not the guy.

Take care of yourselves first always!

Much love always,

xx

You See Excuses, I See Explanations

Hey Hey,

So you may or may not have noticed that I have started publishing blog posts every Tuesday and Thursdays. I was doing so well for a bit until I slacked last week. I have very good reasons for that, so I figured today’s post would just be a little update.

The first Thursday was missed because I spent most of the day on Facebook thanking people for wishing me a Happy Birthday. So technically you can’t be mad at me for not posting on my birthday.

That weekend was Halloween weekend and I went on an epic adventure to New Orleans with my cousin. It was all kind of crazy and epic. We had an amazing time and created life long memories.

Then i came back to the grind of normal work. That Tuesday more than anything I really just wanted to quit everything and travel. Just travel everywhere and all the time. So I was in no mood to write anything.

And then sadly on Thursday I got so sick I left work early and missed Friday and was basically in bed all weekend. (I’m better now thanks for worrying! :) )

Which brings us to today. I am finally writing a blog post. Not necessarily a good one but one none the less.

Today I have spent the day finally getting my life back in order. There are lots of exciting things happening and I am trying to finally get myself on a schedule. Hopefully I will.

The plans for this week include: creating schedules, budgeting, organizing presents for birthdays and Christmas, a new story chapter, a new video for Sunday, and helping organize two events next year. I am so very excited for those projects and hope to share on here about them as soon as I can. But for now, all you can know is that it’s exciting and a lot of fun! :)

I hope this has given you a little update on what’s going on in my life!

Much love always,

xxx