I Got This Sir!

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This is where our story starts. It starts with a very impatient flight attendant who just didn’t want us to forget to move into the aisle. After being told this a few times, a sassy Liz finally responded with a “I got this sir!” You know right there this trip is off to a brilliant start. Most of the flight was spent tossing and turning trying to get some sleep, with not much luck. The lack of sleep only added to our giddyness making us laugh hysterically at jokes only we would understand.

Once we finally arrived in Iceland we were tired but thrilled about our day ahead. It was a very cold morning, and with my poor planning I did not have a heavy coat. I attributed it more to denial of not wanting to actually bring a winter coat. After picking up our car we headed off for Reykjavik. We had no idea it was even possible to hit this much traffic in Iceland but we got the morning rush hour. We were now an hour behind on our whole schedule, but that didn’t stop us from looking for a cute place for breakfast. And boy did we find a cute little place. The name is Gray Cat and it’s a small cafe with maybe 6 tables very adorably decorated. While there we made friends. Our goal this trip is to talk to as many different new people as possible. Today was the start. We met James and Amy, two americans traveling individually who were now on the end of their trips. We chatted about our trips and gathered some reccomendations of either something to eat or drink in Iceland. I will say this place had the best bacon I have ever had the pleasure of eating. It was amazing.

After breakfast, we walked to the church and also taking in how adorable this city was. And to prove how awesome this city is, the entrance to the church was based on an honor system that you were actually going to pay. After taking in the beautiful scenes from the top of the church we head back down to the main street to get back to the car. Liz went on to get a rye bread ice cream , per Amy’s reccomendation, while i went to a small convenience store. This was possibly one of my favorite parts of my day. Walking into a store that you don’t speak the language of, and asking them to share with you what they think is the candy & chocolate that best represents their culture was awesome. There is nothing like reccomendations from locals.

We then headed to the Blue Lagoon only to have the wrong address, which then led to me stumbling, literally I tripped, into a pizza place to ask directions to quite possibly the sassiest pizza man I have ever met. Look, sir, I am fully aware my destination is the most touristy location here but I just wanted some directions! But he was incredibly helpful, sass and all. Even though at this point we were an hour and a half late from our appointment , they were incredibly accomodating and helpded us out. I attribute it to our awesome lady who happened to share names with me. Once we were all changed we stepped out onto the cold air only to be greated by a beautiful site. The steam was strong and the water was hot. Of course, we immediately take care of business and grab our free drinks. Liz grabs a slushie purely based on the fact the brand name was Krap. Me, being the classy lady that I am, went for Fresita a strawberry bubbly wine. It was delicious! The Blue Lagoon is quite possibly the only place you can look ridiculous with a silica mask on out in public and be okay with it, because everyone else is doing it too.

Then came a lovely lunch where Liz and I strolled in, in our super fabulous bath robes. It was a fancy place and there we were in robes and cheering our complimentary champagne glass, it was fantastic. The food was delicious. We then really wanted 5 more minutes in the water, so we ran back and sat in silence for 5 minutes simply soaking everything in.

Then that’s when my limits got tested. In the bathrooms women didn’t care that they were all completely naked. I had to face my fear of being naked in public because even the iced glasses dividers and doors were see through. But it made me appreciate how open some cultures really are.

Once arriving at the airport we found our gate and immediately went to find Boli, a beer reccomendation per Amy. After sharing one, our sleep depravation now mixed with relaxation & alcohol took us to new heights of laughter. Everything was absolutely hysterical. But it is no surprise within 5 minutes of sitting on the plane we were both out cold. Only to wake up an hour later completely disoriented.

It was then the excitement that we’d soon be in London hit! I was making my dreams come true with one of my best friends. No sooner could I imagine, we were now in London! After taking the Underground, we got to our adorable hostel. We went scoungering for food at midnight only to find an awesome kebab place. So there we sat in the cafeteria of our hostel, while some German boys played pool while we ate and let it sink in the reality of our lives.

And as I sit on this tiny bunk bed looking at Liz I know this has been a wild 36 hours but this trip is just starting! And it’s only getting better from here!

With Love From London,

xx

Dreams Do Come True!

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Dreams. What are dreams? The dreams we’re talking about today are those things you would like to do in your life and you work hard for them to become a reality. Some people have more realistic ones like a dream job or traveling to a specific place. If you’re anything like me, one of your dreams is probably to become a student at Hogwarts School of Magic. Still waiting on that letter McGonagall….

But today I am here to talk about a few dreams that will start coming true tonight. For more than 10 years, I have been in love with everything and anything British and have been dreaming about the day I would get to go to London. Well, tonight will be the night, because I will be departing on a flight to LONDON! Guys, I’m going to London!!!! To most people they will be like, “oh that’s really cool.” But I don’t think anyone, except maybe a few of my friends who are as obsessed as me, will understand what a huge deal this is for me. While in LONDON (I will never get tired of saying that), I will get the closest I will ever be to going to Hogwarts, as we have our Harry Potter themed day! And that’s just one of the days we have planned.

Another dream I’ve always had is go on an Euro trip with a best friend, a road trip, and to go on a trip with my bestie Liz. On this trip I will get ALL THREE! And it will be beyond epic. Karaoke sessions in the car, driving through beautiful country sides, reflective moments of silence, making new friends, and cheeks hurting from smiling so much. Those are all things I fully expect from this trip. And knowing us, these will all definitely happen!

So here’s to two weeks of nothing but fun, of laughs til we cry and of memories captured both on camera and in our minds. Here’s to a trip of a lifetime and a meticulously calculated schedule that no one understands but us. Here’s to two best friends taking on Iceland, England, and Ireland. Here’s to leaving our mark on this beautiful world simply by being us and living our lives full of joy, experiences and dancing. Liz, here’s to us and our amazing adventure!

Much love always,

xx

PS- If you would like to follow our adventures you will be able to do so! Another dream becoming a reality: blogging this whole trip! So, hopefully, every day I will be posting on here a blog post about our day and some of the adventures we get up to. You can also find our adventures on Instagram with the hashtag #crumpnhags (oh there’s a story behind this one).

How To: Be A Bridesmaid

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So if you’re like me you’re starting to enter the age where everyone around you seems to be getting married. And with any luck, you will be bestowed the great honor of being part of the wedding party. Now I’m not saying it’s a great honor, because you  now have a title of bridesmaid/groomsmen which guarantees you a lot of free passes. BUT also because it’s like you’re part of this super elite organization that knows all the behind the scenes stuff, plus all the gossip. Needless to say, it’s a lot of fun. But with the fun comes a lot of responsibility, at least for the bridesmaids. Not to worry, I am here to help.

Weddings are unique to the couple. Some have bridezillas, some have groomzillas, some are simple, some are complex, some have the wedding party extremely involved, and some have the wedding party just showing up. Whatever style of wedding you are now a part of, these few tips should hopefully help you navigate the world of weddings. Keep in mind, most of these apply to being a bridesmaid, but it certainly can be applied to groomsmens (although you guys have A LOT less work.)

1. The Wedding Party 

So you have just been asked to be a bridesmaid. That means you are someone very special to the bride. Be happy about that! I will tell you from this point on, that bridesmaid group will become some of your closest friends for the next few months, this will become especially true the closer you get to the wedding. Please keep in mind you are part of the bride’s life for one reason or another. You will all probably have very different personality and taste. (how else do you keep life interesting, if it’s not for having different friends who apply to different areas of your life and personality.) I can tell you right now, there is always a crazy one in the group, and if you can’t figure out who it is, it’s probably you! But it is of extreme importance to put your differences aside and work together, the wedding after all is about the couple NOT YOU! Also, you will probably not meet the groomsmen (unless you previously know them) until the Wedding Rehearsal.

2. NO Stress

This one is true for before and during the wedding. Always remember the couple already has A LOT on their plate, do not add more with petty things. If you are having issues with your bridesmaid, the bride may be your best friend but that is the last thing she needs right now. You have been given the responsibility to stand by her during her day, but that also means all of you are there to take the first punches before it gets to the couple. Think of it as you are her knights of the round table and what wants to hurt the couple is stress. You have to do everything in your power to make sure their stress is the least amount possible. That means taking on a few more things other than your basic duties. This one is ESPECIALLY true for the day of the wedding. When things go wrong, and they will, you are there to take control and not let any stress reach the bride. Whether someone gets a flat tire, vendors are late, the decor isn’t perfect, (god forbid) something happens to the dresses, or someone forgot something, you are her saviors for the day. You need to make sure she stays calm, and happy because this is her special day, one she has been dreaming of all her life, and has been working hard towards for at least a year.

3. Budget

Whatever type of wedding they are having you need to budget. Here are a few things that go into being a bridesmaid that you will need to budget for: dress, shoes, hair, makeup, accessories, bachelorette party, traveling expenses if they are far away or are having a destination wedding, bridal shower, gifts, and any other things they decide to add on like after party or hotel. Typically, a good base to start off should be $1,000, but again it depends on your couple and the wedding. Also, as a bonus sometimes the bride will provide you with a few things as your gift for being her bridesmaid. But I say, budget for all of it anyways.

4. Dresses

This is fun and potentially stressful part of your duty. Finding the perfect dress. Some brides know exactly what they want and all you have to do is go to the store try it on and you’re done. While other leave it up to you to figure out what you want collectively as a group. Be prepared to disagree a lot and give yourselves enough time to figure out what exactly you’re all comfortable with. However, again I stress that this day is not about you. While it is totally acceptable to want to look good, you all have to find a way to compromise on a dress that makes everyone happy. This section also applies to shoes.

5. Events

So you’re now asking besides the wedding, what else do you have to attend. Well I am here to say, there’s a few more events. The two obvious ones are the Bridal Shower and the Bachelorette Party. Let me break these down for you guys. The Bridal Shower is the more tame, family oriented one. This one has more to do with eating and giving gifts. There can absolutely be dancing involved and there is definitely games involved. But this is the party where both moms are there and probably grandmothers and aunts, so no swearing or bad behaviors. And then there’s the Bachelorette party, which is always A LOT of fun and kind of hazy. There will probably be a lot of drinking and dancing involved. This is the party you are allowed to let the freak flag fly. While you might hesitate a little due to not knowing most of the other girls in attendance, if all goes well they’ll be joining you in your crazy antics. So be sure to give the bride memories she should remember the next day and if she doesn’t, you can retell her the next morning. A few other events that might happen are get togethers to organize the wedding, buy dresses or help with any DIY decorations. Also the day before the wedding there is the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. This is where you meet the groomsmen and where you have to pay attention to remember the simple instructions you’re given for the next day.

6. Fun

Yes there is drama, yes there are disagreements, yes there is a lot of attendance required and yes by this point your wallet is hurting. But everyone is there for a specific reason, TO HAVE FUN! You must always remember to have fun, in whatever part of the wedding you are working on. That allows you to make the process happier and stress free, and when you look back you can be like “WOW THAT WAS SO MUCH FUN!” So even if you feel like pulling out your hair, always remember to have fun because that’s what this really is all about. This is an incredibly fun experience and at the end of the day you will have such a good time with the girls that you’ll forget about all the stress and drama, enough to accept the next invitation to be a bridesmaid.

Well I hope this was a good overview of what it’s like to be a bridesmaid. I hope it made you laugh and I hope it actually does help when you accept the incredible life changing experience of being a bridesmaid.

As always much love,

xx

Post- First Date Stages

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I think everyone reading this post is either going through many firsts, has experienced some firsts or is living vicariously through some firsts. Either way, you will be able to relate to this post in some capacity, and if not just lay back and laugh.

First dates can be incredibly exciting. Good first dates are even better. So people always talk about the dates themselves, but no one dares talk about the Post- First Date experience. Now, of course I write this from observing a friend and not from personal experience. :D

So I thought it would be fun to write a blog post on the different stages one goes through after the first date. Here we go!

  1. Bliss: Your date just ended. Things went amazingly well. You keep replaying the date in your head. How could it have possibly gone any better? You are on cloud 9. You smile from ear to ear. Everything is perfect in this moment.
  2. Calm Before the Storm: Everything is still good. You are happy, but not dopey happy.  You are just chill.
  3. Crazy Storm: WHY HASN’T HE TEXTED ME?? Omg, what if he has a girlfriend and I’m just a booty call? Ugh, what is going on with me? Just one text! That’s all I need. It’s been 2 hours, that’s long enough for a text. JUST TEXT ME DAMN IT! He must not like me! I should text him! No I shouldn’t! I should! No!
  4. Self Doubt: What’s wrong with me? Am I not good enough? Am I not smart enough? Ugh, I really shouldn’t have said that one thing. Why am I so stupid sometimes?
  5. Screw Him: Screw him! I am good enough! I am amazing! I am beautiful! I don’t need his stupid self. If he can’t realize how good and awesome I am, then he definitely doesn’t deserve me.
  6. Soft Anger: Ugh, why can’t he just text me? Pretty pleasee….
  7. Indifference: Fine, don’t text me. Whatever, I don’t care.

Then finally that text message arrives, and suddenly every emotion you just went through seems silly and over the top. A smile creeps on your face. Every friend you just ranted to, is now rolling their eyes because they are so used to your shenanigans. But the next day you go through everything all over again. It’s a never ending cycle until you get to the second & third dates, when you get a little more clarity as to where you stand. Ah to be young, and slightly unstable.

I hope you all handle yourselves better than my “friend” does. Anyone else go through the same things? If so, let me know and you and my “friend” can bond. If not, please send some advice so this craziness can stop. Or maybe, she’s just destined to live her love life in chaos and in this roller coaster of emotion. I guess at the end of the day, it does make life more entertaining. I mean, it definitely is entertaining for others who get to laugh at her ridiculousness. Either way, everyone deals with things differently, but I hope this made you laugh. And if you do this too, laugh at yourself because let’s be honest, it is a bit crazy and that’s okay!

Much love always,

xx

Give Yourself Your Best Chance

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So lately I’ve seen a few things that all had the message of “give yourself your best chance.” Most of them had to do with love and relationships and being true to yourself in your partner preference. But I think this message can be true in every aspect of your life.

Give yourself your best chance at choosing yourself. Always pick you first. When things aren’t going as you plan and you are hurting yourself, choose you. Choose to not hurt anymore and choose to give yourself true love. This could be true from a crush to a long-term relationship. Of course, relationships require work but when is too much work worth it? When the hurt and the bad outweighs the good, maybe that’s a good sign it’s time to let go. And this is true for small things such as crushes too. If the person doesn’t feel the same or if they don’t wish to pursue anything with you, choose you. Choose to not hurt anymore and to be happy. And choose to give someone who will treasure you the chance at winning your heart.

Give yourself your best chance at loving yourself. Choose to love yourself, and accept every part of you. You have flaws, we all do. Learn to live with those flaws and use them to your advantage. You are a pretty amazing person, and the first person who should know and own that is you. Someone can only love you, if you know how to love yourself.

Give yourself your best chance at love. Love is a scary thing. Many people are too scared of it to give it a shot. Actually, many people are too scared of being hurt to give it a try. But if you’re not even giving yourself a chance to find it, if you close yourself off to even the chance, then your closing yourself off to actually finding it. Be open to love. How did you learn to walk? By falling down a few times until you finally mastered it. Love is the same thing. You might have to fall down a few times, then you pick yourself up stronger and knowing more than before until you find the one you’re looking for. And you might actually love a few times until you find the one that fits you best. ( just like the perfect pair of shoes ;) )

Give yourself your best chance at adventures. You only get one life. So shouldn’t you live it the most that you can? Shouldn’t you be sitting on your deathbed thinking “Wow, that was a heck of a ride!” That’s how I hope I feel at the end of all of this. You have the opportunity to travel? Do it! You have the opportunity to try a new food? Do it! You have the opportunity to experience something new whether that be an event, a feeling or a place? DO IT! Allow yourself to go through these things because you will create memories and learn a whole lot about you, people and places. When you’re old, the stories you’ll be telling your grandchildren or your friends are the adventures and memories you made. So make some really good ones, so that you’ll be sure to have the best stories around! Also by living adventures of your own, you might inspire those around you to be a bit more adventurous themselves.

Give yourself your best chance at happiness. Things will make you sad in life. Let it. It’s okay to be sad, to be angry, to cry and to want to punch something. The beautiful thing about being human is having all these emotions and being able to express them fully. Take those emotions and feel every single one. Because when you do, you’ll make feeling happy that much sweeter.

Give yourself your best chance to be carefree. More often than not, we are so worried about what others think of us. What we wear, what we do, what we say, or how we act are always running around in our heads as what people are judging us on. Bottom line is this, as I’ve mentioned in previous posts, people will judge you no matter what. It’s human nature to see something and evaluate it. We are taught from a young age that everything requires a “grade” or an evaluation. So what do we do about it? Breaking that habit will be very hard, not only because habits are hard to break but also because I believe part of it has to do with being human. So what can we truly do? We can ignore it. Let’s be honest, you’re not perfect either and you’ve done it too even if it’s just in your head. So just ignore it. Know that you are who are, and that no one is going to change that. Go ahead! Dance like no one is watching, even if tons of people are. Sing at the supermarket, because who cares. Laugh so hard you start crying. Dress exactly how you want to. You should just be you, and no one else. Be carefree.

Give yourself your best chance to be you. Be you unapologetically. Be the best you, you can be. Be so you, that no one else in the world is like you. Because that’s what makes you memorable and unique. And I don’t mean memorable in a celebrity way, I mean memorable to the people who matter, your loved ones. More often than not, we try to conform to what society wants us to be, or what we think others want us to be. This is especially true for women, but also true for men. So girls, be strong, be muscular, be sexually active, be loud, be unique, be creative, be independent if that’s what you want to be. Don’t let labels define you and shame you. Because the best thing you can do, and you can live your life is to be 100% you.

So, here’s to giving your best chance at life. Be brave.

Much love always,

xx

I’m Not Going Out Like That

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Here’s the truth ladies and gents, sorry to break it to you but you never really leave “high school.” In reality, it just takes different forms. Whether that’s college, work, friends or really anywhere. For a time you may even be tricked into thinking that people matured and that pettiness and gossip were left behind. But, the truth is some people take longer or never really mature at all.

But you can! You can rise above the pettiness and drama and gossip and be a strong, intelligent and overall good person. We can always work on ourselves and improve something about us. Whether that’s how you perceive someone, or how you react to situations, whatever it may be you can always work a little more today to be better than yesterday. I know that is something I work at every day. To be less judgmental about people’s choices, to not put people into labels and to stand up for what is right. These are just some of the things I work at every day to make myself a better person.

So when the day comes where you feel like you’re back in high school, you can smile and know that you won’t fall to their level but instead treat them well because that’s what good strong people do. In the face of adversity you can always rise above and be kind to others and teach them through example. Kindness is the strongest form of punishment, because you are showing them what they are lacking and that is a powerful thing. So make sure to always spread love. There’s a reason TV Shows, fairy tales and stories always make love such a powerful thing and there is no shortcut to love. (But that’s a post for another time)

Much love as always,

xx

I Have Only Changed in Your Eyes

Hello Everyone,

So most recently the people around me have learned a new simple fact about me and somehow that has changed their perception of me. I write a lot about crushes on here, but never do I change myself for them. But my friends seem to think differently.

After they have learned that I have a crush, they have been making certain comments that actually just make me laugh. Some comment that I started wearing more make up. Others have said that I’ve been dressing better and asked if I’d been shopping lately. And some even think I am dressing more sexy.

Here’s the funny part about it all, I have changed absolutely nothing about myself. I still get up at the same time. The clothes I wear I have owned for a while and have worn it before. My makeup routine has stayed exactly the same, nothing new. And I have no idea where the sexy bit came from, because I really don’t consider myself as someone who dresses sexy.

I just wanted to write about how funny it is, that sometimes one simple fact changes how people perceive you. Even though I kept everything exactly the same, one small fact made everyone start to see me differently. That just goes to show, that ultimately you shouldn’t care what others think because they will think whatever they want to. So live a carefree life and be happy with yourself. Life is a wonderful big place full of adventure, don’t waste time trying to fit this image you want people to have of you. Because more than likely they see what they want, whether it’s the truth or not.

As always much love,

xx

Your Eyes Tell More Than You Think

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If you know me in person, there is one thing I do that you probably have noticed and it probably bothers you. When I talk to people I never really look into their eyes, especially not if I’m saying something personal. While some consider this rude, I do have an explanation for it.

To me, eyes are a very special thing. Yes they provide you with eyesight and the ability to appreciate the world around you, but that is not what I’m here to talk about today.

Eyes can say so much about a person. You’ve probably heard the saying “the eyes are the window to the soul.” While many of you might consider it a stupid saying with no credibility, I strongly believe in it. And I don’t believe it because I think I can know everything about you by looking into your eyes. But eyes do tell stories.

What I think that saying refers to is a series of components that tell you a story. For example, when someone looks at someone else you can see if they’re happy, or sad or angry with that other person. They don’t have to say anything else, and you don’t have to look at any other part in their face except their eyes. You can read emotions through their eyes. Sometimes the eyes themselves tell stories. The glimmer in their eye can tell you about what their personality is like.  I see more than just two eyeballs when I look at someone, I see who they are as a person.

For most of my life I’ve able to tell a lot about a story from the way people look at each other. I love to people watch mostly to try to read people and figure out their stories. Most recently I’ve joined the Game of Thrones cult and been watching the series. There are two characters who are madly in love, but I can tell so much about what the guy feels for the girl from simply the way he looks at her. There is obvious love, then there’s intrigue because he wants to get to know her better, there is respect, kindness and adoration. You may say I know all this from watching his interactions with her, but I can honestly say I concluded this from the first scene they had together on screen before I saw their story develop. And to be perfectly honest, the way they look at each other is my favorite part of their interactions, much more important than any word they could say. It is true that this is all acting, but for an actor to accomplish all of that from the way he looks at someone it’s a true talent.

Now going back to why I never like to look at people directly into their eye when they’re talking to me, it’s because I’m such a strong believer in the saying that I feel stripped of any barriers. When someone looks at me in the eyes, I feel naked. I feel like they can know everything about me by just looking into my eyes. They can see every thought, every feeling and every truth. Not that I lie to people or pretend to be someone I’m not, but there’s a certain level of openness allowed for every day interaction.  So know that if I look at you straight into your eyes when you talk to me it’s because I trust you and I want you to truly know me.

I encourage you to look around you. Try to look at how someone is looking at that other person and try to read what is happening. Know that how you look at someone, says a lot about you. Use your eyes to show kindness and happiness. And the next time you see someone look away don’t automatically assume they’re lying to you, but instead try to make them feel comfortable enough to look you dead in the eyes.

As always much love,

xx

The Things We Own

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In our lives when we see something we like we buy it (for the most part). But have you ever thought that that item might reflect who you were at that time. The strangest thing happened to me the other day. I saw two items I had bought in the same city but at two different times in my life and began to compare them.

You see the picture above,  Well I bought those masks in New Orleans. The first time around I couldn’t wait to buy myself a mask. And the second time I knew I wanted to add to my collection. What ended up happening, was I got two entirely different types of masks.

The blue and gold one I bought when I was in high school. It is so beautiful and in it I see a young and sweet naivety. It reflects a simplistic beauty. And also it is very bright and lively. It reflects the kind of person i was back then. A girl who knew enough about the world to know it was beautiful and happy. A girl who as much as she would never admit it, had a certain naive nature. But yet she was strong and bold. She knew how she wanted to represent herself. She didn’t pick the mask with feathers, or with anything else that stuck out of it. She kept things within the limits, yet with a simple beauty to it. She believed in the magical nature of life. It is a mystical and beautiful mask. And it represented well the person I was as a young high school teenager.

The other I bought a few months ago when I went with my cousin. To me it’s even more beautiful. Its mature, sophisticated with a hint of darkness and mysteriousness. It is intricate with a magical feel for the girl that despite everything still believes in the magic of the world, love. I think it reflects me now. A mature young woman, who still finds beauty in life. Who knows that life is in the details. It has been tainted with a hint of darkness because she now knows the world isn’t made of only unicorns and happiness but instead that there is destruction and darkness in the world. Yet, she strives to be beautiful. The boldness still shows that she wants to stand out, but she prefers to do it in a sophisticated and demure way. The metallic color represents how she is still strong and unyielding on her principles. Even the shapes in the mask, shows a different style of beauty. This mask represents me and who I am.

I think both masks are beautiful, but in the place I am at in my life the one I most recently bought is a bit more beautiful than the other. This representation in what we own can be showcased in anything you own: artifacts, clothes, shoes, purses, even your throw pillows on your couch. Buying different things at different times in our lives are a great way to have tangible objects that we can later reflect upon and remember a certain period of our lives. The objects tell the story, and that’s truly a beautiful thing.

As always much love,

xx

We Live in a World of Choices

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When I reflect on the weekend and the week I had last week, one common topic was reflected throughout: choices. From the religious school I help out at, to movies I’ve seen, to conversations I’ve had, choices was the reoccurring theme in my life last week. I think it’s something we don’t talk about enough. And it’s a topic I feel is not talked about enough between parents and kids.

What are choices? Choices are the decisions we make every single day. Big or small, every choice shapes your life. Some choices you think about, some you don’t. Some take calculated rationalizing and some are made with a gut feeling. However big or small and however you make your choice, you do it. You choose every day. And if you stop and think about that concept for a bit, it will blow your mind.

So now that you have realized that every single thing in your life is a choice, you now know how important those are. Your choices define your life. So right off the bat, I want to say try and make the good choices, the choices that will make you happy. It might not be the easiest choice to make, but it might be the most worth it in the end. And it’s not wrong to make decisions on a limb based on a gut feeling, I do it all the time. Because my rule of guide is this, if it doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t.

Also know the choices you make don’t just affect you, but also the people around you. Choices affect others, whether you know them or not. So when you’re making choices you are not just making them for yourself, but also for those that could be affected. Which is why people always reiterate making good choices not just for yourself, which is important, but also for those around you.

So the next time you are presented with a choice, which could be in 5 minutes, an hour or a day, think about it. Or don’t and act with your gut. Either way, know you are making a choice. And even when you feel like you don’t have a choice, remember you ALWAYS have a choice, sometimes it takes a little more thinking to find an alternate solution.

As always much love,

xx