12 Picture Tips for Men’s Profiles

Hello Hello,

So recently I was talking to my friend about men’s profiles on apps like Tinder and Happn and on dating profiles. One thing we both agreed on is the fact that men don’t know how to market themselves. Now, before you jump on my throat for saying ‘market’ let me explain this. Every single day, we pick the best outfit or attitude to portray ourselves. We essentially market ourselves to the world every single day. And the great thing is you can express yourself in whatever way you want, sending out whatever message you would like.  But the truth is this: if you are on a dating website or on an app to meet girls, you need to show off yourself in the best way possible. Most men have no idea how to pick the best pictures to represent themselves, so I devised a few tips to help! Now, you may read this and agree, disagree, use it or not, either way I just wanted to offer this in case you did need a little guidance.

1. Include solo pictures, but not super close ups.

Listen we love to see you have friends. But we don’t like playing guessing games. If we can’t figure out which one you are in your group photos we just will say no. We need clear solo pictures of you. We want to see your pretty face, but not to the point we can see your pores. Pick good individual pictures to show you off.

2. Fashion sense is important.

My friend sent me a picture of a guy that was clearly from the early 2000s simply from his attire. Women are attracted to a men who know how to dress themselves. Therefore fashion is important because it makes us think you got your stuff together. Whatever your style is, dress appropriately.

3. Don’t flex so much. 

Look, we get it, you go to the gym and you’re ripped. Trust me when I say, we can see your biceps in that short sleeve shirt. You don’t need to put it all on display. Let us find out about your six pack after we start dating. Leave some mystery. It’s good to know you are active, but honestly we can already tell from your physique. (Don’t forget every woman is basically the best detective out there, being so obvious offends us.)

4. Girls in pictures hinders more than helps.

Unless the woman in your photo is your mother, grandmother, godmother, aunt, sister or another family member don’t put them up. I know it’s shallow and you may think you look cool being surrounded by girls, but the truth is you don’t . It makes you look like a player and a d-bag. Girls with little clothes, makes us actually think less of you and therefore like you less. Even if both your goal and the girl’s goal is a one night stand, we still want to feel special. Just avoid girls in pictures. (This may not necessarily reflect your real life, you may have tons of really good girl friends that we may end up loving but give us a chance to meet them in person first and not through your pictures.)

5. Too much partying = no love for you

We like to know a guy has fun and knows how to party. But if every single picture you post is of you partying and drinking, that tells us you’re irresponsible and you don’t care about anything else other than partying. And sorry to tell you, we stay away from that.

6. Headless torso pictures sends one clear message.

We’ve all see the headless torso pictures, and no I’m not referring to a mythological creature. From those kind of pictures we understand you are only interested in one sole purpose. And if you don’t care and that’s exactly what you want, by all means ignore this one.

7. Include interests.

When we see these pictures we want to understand a little more about you to see if we’re a match beyond superficial. Give us pictures of things you like to do. Share with us some of your interests. We want to know you’re a dynamic person.

8. Pets are always a heart melter.

By now you should know most girls love pets especially if they’re small or young. if you have a dog, cat, turtle, rabbit, sloth, or whatever as a pet show us! Dogs or cats are guaranteed to melt our hearts! It shows us you can care for another living creature, and honestly that’s sexy.

9. Children are cute but clarify who the child belongs to. 

Look, most of us love children. Seeing a man with a kid is incredibly adorable and it makes us smile from ear to ear. But, please, clarify who the child belongs to. If it’s yours great let us know. If it’s your niece/nephew or godchild let us know. We just want to know what we could be getting ourselves into.

10. TBTs are cute if we’re dating.

Putting a baby picture is fine. It show us you were adorable once and you own it. For the most part one baby picture is fine and it doesn’t bother me much. Now, awkward middle school or from 4 years ago that’s a different story. Of course we would love to see them, when we actually know you.

11. Don’t be a show off.

Remember that kid in class that would brag about his new toy. Not many people liked him or the bragging. That’s still true today. It’s great that you have all these material things, but showing them off in ever single picture makes you materialistic and shallow. If we like you for you, the material things will be a bonus.

12. Give us conversation starter.

If you want the woman to make a move or don’t mind a more aggressive woman than give us something to strike up a conversation. Just give us something to work with. Trust me conversation will be able to flow more naturally if we have interesting things to comment on or talk about.

So these are just a few tips me and my friend came up with. If you know of any others let me know! On top of the pictures, it’s always great to have a good bio included. We just want to learn more about you. Give us material to work with and then we can decide if we’re a match. Obviously this is all from my point of view, and guys also judge us and make a decision on whether or not we’re a good match for them. But typically girls give a lot more to work with.

Anyways have a wonderful day!!

Much love always,

xx

Dear Future Husband

Dear Future Husband,

I love you. I hope I tell you that often, because I really do. I hope you know how lucky you are to be loved by me. If you know me, that comment doesn’t come off as conceited. By now, you will know how big of a heart I have and to know that I love you with all of it must make you feel pretty special. Hopefully, I have done a little something special for you every single day to show you just how much I love you. I hope you treat me like a queen, because I certainly will treat you like a king. The amount of care that will come your way, will sometimes be more than you could possibly imagine.

I hope we have gone through many adventures together and that we will have many more to come. Hopefully, we both love to travel and that will happen frequently. It’s a beautiful and big world, and I can’t imagine seeing it with anyone else. Make sure we always take pictures and videos to have those memories even when ours fade. But, I also hope we take time to just really take in our surroundings. I hope we make this world a little better, and that we leave our mark. I’ll make sure we make a difference and do our part.

Here’s a strange request: I hope we have gone through bad times. Those bad times will not only make us stronger, but it will show me that no matter what happens in this life I have you by my side always. I hope you hold my hand, because your strong hold of me will let me know that no matter how far I fall you will be there to help me up.

I hope you make me laugh, a lot. Laughter always has been and always be the best medicine. I hope I make you laugh with my ridiculous humor and antics. I can be loud and crazy and spontaneous, I hope you find that endearing. Always join me if I start dancing in public, because we will be able to laugh about it after. A genuine smile on your face will let me know I did something right. I hope I say Thank You for everything you do for me.

We are a team, and we will always be a team. This will be even more true when we get blessed with children. Raising them will be a team effort, one I am confident we will do well. It will be terrifying to know that we will be shaping a human being, but I hope knowing we have each other will make it less scary. If anything is to ever happen to either one of us, I hope the other one tells our kids just how amazing and incredible that parent was. I hope we have plenty of stories of us to embarrass our kids. I hope we raise incredibly kind, fun loving, smart and independent children.

I hope you treat me as an equal. I am a strong independent woman who needs a partner not a master. I hope you know how to interpret me, from the genuine smiles to the worried crinkles on my face. Knowing my mannerisms inside and out means you understand me and that you care. I will always have your back and support you in whatever you want to do. I ask that you do the same for me, regardless of how crazy my endeavors may seem. Embrace my quirks, they are what make me lovable! Know by now, I probably adore your quirks.

If I do have some ridiculous crazy ideas, support me but also help me be realistic. I know I can be a dreamer, and I hope that is something you love about me. And I realize sometimes I might soar too high, I will need you to help me fly a little lower. Never, however, belittle me and my dreams. Putting me down, will undoubtedly result in bad things your way.

I hope we talk. That we talk often, loud, quiet, and about the hard things. Listen to me, even if you don’t care about what I’m saying. Sometimes I just need an ear. Although, I do hope you care about what I will have to say. Please know, your opinion will matter to me just as much as my family’s opinions. I may not always agree with it, but I will always respect it. I talk a lot, as I’m sure you know, but sometimes my silences will speak louder. My silences don’t always mean I’m upset, sometimes I’m just appreciating the moment. I hope we are comfortable in our silence.

Fighting will be inevitable, but promise me we will NEVER go to bed mad. Sometimes I’ll have a short temper and let it out on you when it may not be your fault. Please know, I am sorry to do that to you. But hopefully, you’ll be strong enough to know I just need to blow off steam. I will do my best to be as understanding. When we fight, I promise to do my best to never say anything that will truly hurt you. And if I ever do, please know that will never be my intention. I hope the same goes for you. Seeing you in pain, will hurt me as much as it hurts you. If the fight is not huge, please let me win sometimes. You know how competitive and stubborn I can be, sometimes winning will be good for us, trust me. And as stubborn and competitive as I may be, my compassion will also let you win sometimes. ;)

Trust me the same way I will trust you. I am giving you all of me, please don’t break me. Sometimes I will seem fragile, but by now you should know I am very strong. I may be strong, but I can still break. I will do everything and anything for you. I will always do my best to protect you, but know I will always be honest even if it hurts. I would take a bullet for you any day.

Respect me and my choices the same way I will do for you. Respect the religion I pick to follow. Respect the traditions I follow. Know that I will not only respect, but also embrace your choices and traditions. Our relationship should be built on respect, trust and love.

Understand and embrace my crazy lovable family. They are everything to me, and I hope they mean a lot to you too. I hope by now I have told you wonderful stories about my brother, who I miss dearly. If I ever get sad about him, just hold me. Let me cry and hold me, because I know everything will be alright.

My close friends are important to me too. I hope you know and like them. I will need time with them, even if that means time away from you. Please know, I will give you the same courtesy of spending time with your buddies away from me. It will be important for us to spend time apart, to appreciate the time we have together.

I hope you are strong internally and externally. I hope you are kind and sweet. I hope you are fun and funny. I hope you love dogs, because we all know I am obsessed! I hope you will be a great role model for our kids. I know if I picked you that you will be an incredibly father. I hope you love life as much as I do. I hope you have a good heart. I hope you know what you want, and not afraid to admit it when you don’t. I hope you’re not afraid to break down, because you’ll know I’ll be right there to hold you together. I hope you’re a feminist. I hope you stand up for what you believe in. I hope you can admit it, if you’re lost. (It happens to all of us!) Never be afraid to admit you were wrong. I know I always do.

I hope that together we will both continually grow and learn about ourselves, our relationship and life.

I hope we have an epic love story. One for the books. I hope we met in a memorable way, and that we can tell our kids how life brought us together. I hope our love story is full of laughter, fun, adventures, happiness, hardships, trials, respect, trust and most of all love. (It is called a LOVE story after all!) I hope our friends and family love having us around because we’re the “Cool Couple”! Regardless, we’ll always be cool in our own eyes.

All in all, I just hope you treat me the same way I treat you. And I hope we are genuinely happy, because life is beautiful and should be experienced in love. And just love me. Love me with everything you got, because I will do the same.

With A Lot of Love,

Your Future Wife aka Hopefully the woman of your dreams who isn’t perfect but will love you unconditionally

PS- Will totally be reading this at my rehearsal dinner to see if the guy I decide to spend the rest of my life with,  measures up to this list.

Kindness is the Opposite of Weakness

Hello Everyone,

If you listen to the radio then I can guarantee you have heard at least once Rihanna’s new song FourFive Seconds. In the song one specific line always calls my attention because I think it’s a great line.

“All of my kindness, is taken for weakness.”

More often than not, kindness is seen as a sign of weakness and people like to take advantage of that. Let me tell you from experience on a daily basis, being kind is actually a sign of strength. Kindness means being nice and kind to others regardless of the situation. And it is especially true when the situation or other people involved are anything but nice. It takes an incredible amount of strength to not be rude in those situations. Also when you’re having a terrible day, it takes effort to be nice.

To all the people along my life who have taken my kindness and made a “doormat” out of me I say: Thank you! You showed me how strong I could be. You took the easy way out, and threw your weakness at me thinking it was strength. But I got to see what real strength is. My kindness never has been and never will be a weakness, it is my strength.

So to all of you out there who are known as nice, or kind or who do acts of kindness, please know you are strong. You are stronger than most people, because you are making the conscious decision to rise above and treat everyone with respect, dignity and kindness. Don’t let people get you down if they call you weak for being nice.

For all of those who are rude, mean or bullies. Be nice! I dare you! I dare you to be nice to others, not because you should. Do it because it feels good, and it will allow others to see you are inherently a good and kind person.

We all have real kindness inside of us, use your strength for good.

Much love always,

xx

Follow Your Dreams

Sorry guys, but there really isn’t much to post today. I’ve been super busy working on something! I promise soon I shall reveal what that is! :) But for now here’s a quote to hold you over.

“For what it’s worth: It’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over.”

– F. Scott Fitzgerald

“You and Me Baby Ain’t Nothing But Mammals”

Hellooo,

At some point or another in your lifetime you’ve heard “You need to be happy with yourself first, before you can be with someone else.” Or at least some version of that statement. While this statement is absolutely true, the extent to which some people use this has gotten a bit much.

Throughout my years as a teen and even now, every time I say I am sad because I am lonely I have often been responded with ‘don’t be, your life should be complete without a man.’ And to all of you I say: Stop right there! There are so many things wrong with that thought.

In our most basic form we are animals. Animals, for the most part, like to be included in groups. Even more so, they find mates, whether it’s one or several. So as a basic animal instinct we crave partnership and companionship. But let’s go even further than just animal instinct. As a human being, regardless of who you love, most of us desire to find a partner. While you may have a great life filled with joy and fun and love, there will always be a part of you craving that deep emotional connection with a partner. And that longing causes sadness. So I’m here to tell you, IT’S OKAY! It’s okay to feel lonely and sad. Being lonely and sad doesn’t mean you have any less of a great life or that you don’t love yourself. It simply means you are human, and one of your basic needs isn’t being met.

While you can have a great life with a great job, great friends and a lot of fun and love around you, you can still feel an emptiness from that part in your heart that hasn’t been filled. That is you telling yourself something isn’t quite right. For me, I currently feel that way. I have a great family, great friends and a pretty good life. And I am so grateful for everything I do have in my life, but there is still one very important thing missing. My entire life, I’ve always dreamed of finding my perfect man. And I believe that until I find that man, part of me will always be lonely and sad. Most of my life, people have made me feel bad for feeling that way. Until one day I decided enough was enough. I am allowed to feel exactly the way I feel. While there are other things that are very important to other people, finding love is very important to me. So until I find my prince charming, I will feel exactly the way I want to thank you very much.

Some people make it sound like a bad thing if you are sad because of the lack of a partner. And truth be told, they’re probably making you feel like that because they feel like that. When they say, focus on other things in your life, it’s simply so that you can focus on the good things in your life instead of the bad or sad.

I’m here to tell you something different than what you’ve been probably told most of your life. It is not only important but healthy that you go through all of the emotions. If you feel happy great enjoy every ounce of that feeling. If you are sad, that’s okay too. Take in all the sadness and really let yourself go. Cry if you need to and be sad. Because being sad makes you appreciate all the happy moments. Plus we all know how unhealthy it is to just keep things bottled up inside. So if you’re angry find a good healthy outlet. Mine is talking and the gym. (If you ever need to let out stress or anger, use these. They’re awesome and great for relieving any anger.) Whatever emotion you are feeling, really feel it. It is healthy and necessary that you completely feel every emotion. Because, truth be told, it’s a pretty amazing thing that we have such an array of emotions to go through.

The bottom line is this, if you feel sad and lonely because you don’t have a partner, that is absolutely okay. No one should make you feel bad for feeling the way you do. And you’re not alone in feeling the way you do. We all feel sad and lonely at some point, it’s part of life. So go have yourself a life full of emotions! Trust me, the bad emotions make the good ones feel that much better!

Much love always,

xx

A Letter To ME

Dear Me,

Thank you! Thanks for taking seriously the whole “you need to go to the gym” thing. You’ve always been a procrastinator when it came to actually doing exercise. To you going up the stairs was exercise enough. But you finally decided getting out of breath when you got to your room just wasn’t cutting it anymore. Also, for the first time in your life you actually decided to follow doctor’s order to keep doing something even after  you were done going to them. (You know what I’m talking about Miss I-Stopped-Wearing-My-Retainer-So-Now-My-Teeth-Have-Moved-Again.)

But seriously, New You really appreciates it. I feel better than I have in a long time. Like internally I can feel the difference. I may feel tired, but my body inside feels amazing. Your knee hasn’t hurt in a long time. You are stronger physically and mentally. And not to mention how good you look. Plus, the loose pants definitely help the self-esteem!

It has only been a month since you started, but the difference is already noticeable. There’s still a lot of work to be done. But I couldn’t be more proud that you decided to truly exercise for you. You started out because you HAD to, but you go 3 times a week because you WANT to. Keep it up! You’re doing amazing! A few more weeks, and you will have that banging bikini bod.

Thank you!

With a lot of love,

New Me

Where Do I Fit In?

“Where do I fit in?” Is a question we often face in every stage of our life. For me, it’s been something I’ve always struggled with. The simple fact of moving around allows you to be able to adapt but also makes it so much harder to truly fit in somewhere. But whether you’re a kid, teenager, or adult you often encounter this question and often don’t know how to deal with it.

This question has been prevalent in my life throughout the different stages of my life. In school, you always wonder if you’re being included in your friend groups. This is the age where you’re still figuring out who you even are as a person. That alone is hard enough, and trying to find a group of friends that is a good fit can be quite the challenge. In college, you have several different groups to fulfill different needs. This is the time you have your party friends, your study buddies, your chill friends, and your best friends that are with you through it all. Through those times, I can guarantee most of the those groups shift yearly. And that’s totally okay. And as an adult things change drastically. As an adult you are responsible, working and sort of free. But with adulthood you don’t have places where you can meet people. For example, in college you mostly meet college students in class, out at a bar, party or someone’s dorm or apartment. In adulthood, you can meet people anywhere but I think it’s so much harder to actually become friends.

In my case, one of the only time I really felt like I fit in with a group was with a guy friend group of mine in college. But the funny thing is even then, I was the only girl and that made me a little bit of an outcast within that group. The only other instance I’ve felt like part of a group was with my best girlfriends in high school. But even then, after we graduated we all drifted apart. With other groups of friends I’ve always felt like a bit of an outcast. Now, alone with one or 2 friends I truly feel comfortable and not left out. So this begs the question, am I just not cut out to be part of a large group of friends? Or does everyone suffer with this?

What happens when as an adult you make really good friends, but those friends don’t necessarily do the things you do? For example, what if you are always up to party, go to a bar, or even just go out but your friends prefer more quiet nights or are always too busy? What do you do then? Well my dear, dear readers that is where I need your help. I have amazing friends, who I am thankful for having in my life, but I am 24 years young and sitting at home Friday nights is just not acceptable.

You read that correctly, most of my weekend plans consist of staying in on Friday and Saturday nights. And to be perfectly honest, it is driving me insane. This year, the only person I’ve been to the movies with is my own mother. I’ve been out maybe 5 or 6 times since the start of the year. In college I was out Tuesdays through Saturdays. After that I downsized drastically to mostly on weekends. But it’s so hard, because your size of friends or acquaintances that are willing to go out is much smaller.

Here is something that needs to be understood about me. I don’t mind doing things on my own. I often times go to concerts alone because my friends all have different taste in music. That doesn’t bother me much any more.However, I don’t like going to movies alone because I love to talk about movies after I’ve seen them. And that’s not something you can do, if you go alone. But going out alone, now that’s just sad and creepy. At bars and clubs I hate it when my friends leave me alone to go to the bathroom, so imagine going to a place like that on your own. It’s terrifying and just weird. Come on, you all know it’s true. You see someone show up alone, you automatically label them as weird.

So I’m asking for some advice here. What should I do about my life? I want to be out there enjoying my youth! Enjoying meeting new people! But I can’t if I’m stuck at home because I have no one to go with me.  What are you guys doing? How do you make sure people are inviting you out? And how do you find the people you go out with?

In advance, I thank you for the advice. (And I realize how pathetic and weird I sound. But the first step is admitting it, am I right?)

Much love always,

xx

We Expect Mutual Respect

Good Morning!

So last Thursday I came across a very frustrating situation. A friend of mine approached me to ask for some advice. The previous night she had contacted an alum from her college seeking professional advice. He then proceeded to tell her he preferred to communicate via text. Sadly when she told me, the first thing that popped into my head was “Oh no, I know exactly where this is going.” And the frustrating part is I SHOULDN’T know where the story was headed! But in today’s world the sad reality is that some men think that a woman trying to advance her career will do it by any means necessary. I don’t want this blog post to be focused on this man, but instead on the sad reality surrounding it. I realize this is not true for all men. I, for example, work in an predominately male office, who are all very respectable and pretty awesome. But for the men that this is true for, I need you to listen up.

When a woman reaches out for professional advice, it does not give you any right to be anything BUT professional. The same way that if you reach out to someone for professional advice, you don’t expect to be disrespected and offered anything but a professional relationship. We are the same! All we want is to advance our careers by merit and hard work. Please understand this is NOT okay and it is completely out of line. We are humans just like you and are trying to make a career for ourselves just like you. And honestly, we shouldn’t live in such a modern world where this is accepted as okay.

And to make matters worse, when my friend reached out to a female acquaintance from the same company as the man, she told my friend to not report it. WHAT? Are you kidding me? How are you not supporting your fellow woman? How could you possible tell her to keep quiet when she was blatantly disrespected? You are just as much part of the problem as the man.

My friend said “Women today are told so many don’ts, I don’t know what do.” And when she said that I knew she’d be okay. She knew right from wrong, and she knew that staying quiet wouldn’t sit well with her. So I did what any good woman, friend, fellow human would, I gave her a hug and told her to report him. Not only because he disrespected her, but because he should not be a contact for other women seeking professional advice. Because sadly, someone might actually fall prey to that. (To not be a hypocrite, in that situation both parties are at fault. The man for offering anything but a professional relationship. And the woman for thinking she is not good enough based on merit and that she has to resort to other measures.)

So, if you are going through a situation like this, or a friend of yours is, please remember for your protection and the protection of those around you it is always good to be honest. You should be your own priority.So you should always speak up when something isn’t right. I know sometimes due to the situation it might be tough, but if it doesn’t feel right in your gut, speak up. Who knows you might actually be helping someone else too. Always follow your gut, because it’s got your back and it’s always right.

Feel free to reach out to me if you need to talk or ask anything.

Much love always,

xx

More Technology, Less Human Interaction

Hey guys,

So it’s been all over the news that the anxiously awaited new Apple Watch will be coming out soon. Everyone is excited for it and it seems to be something people can’t wait to get their hands on.

As awesome as the Apple Watch seems, it saddens me a little. It’s true we live in a world of easy commodities where they try to make everything as accessible as possible. But at the same time, the sad reality is how much we are losing human interaction. The trade off we seem to get is, more advanced technology and less face to face human interaction.

Having everything you need on your wrist, will make your life easier. But it will also be easier to get distracted and focus on a piece of technology instead of the world around you. It’s hard enough to put your phone down, but how do you ignore your watch?

I’d be a liar if I didn’t say that is seems awesome and convenient to have everything right there on your wrist. It makes for such a convenient way to check your messages, phone calls, etc. But, will that mean that since everything is readily available we will forget about the world around us?

Of course, the blame isn’t entirely on a piece of technology. Humans have a lot of the blame for not being able to exert self control. So here’s my challenge for you. Incorporate awesome pieces of technology but don’t forget that there is still a big beautiful world around you and people who are just waiting to be a part of your life. Find a balance between technology and human interaction. That’s all I ask!

What do you guys think? Let me know!

Much love always,

xx

Dear Little Brother

Today i want to share something even more personal than I normally do, a letter I wish my little brother could read.

Dear Little Brother,

First of all, I miss you more than you can imagine. You were taken from this world too soon. But I can’t be mad because I have to believe you are in a better place now. And now I can’t believe it’s been more than a year and half since you’ve been gone. It’s crazy how time flies. It feels like we lost you yesterday. 

There are still times, where I see something and I’m like “I should totally get that! My brother would love it!” And then I’m faced with the sad reality that I can’t give you anything physical. There are things I want to tell you and I realize that I won’t ever hear a response. Sometimes I wish I could hug you, even though you hated hugs. (But thank you for letting me hug you one final time the last time I saw you.)  I miss our arguments and our banter, because that’s what made our relationship special. You were my first best friend.  

People tell you that every day it will get easier. And you know it does get easier to deal with it all, but the longing and the pain of losing you is still as strong as the day I got the news. That will never go away, and I hope that shows you just how much I love you. 

I want you to know that I am living my life to fullest and going for my dreams because I know that is exactly what you would have wanted. And I still remember that day before we went bowling when you said “If that’s what you really want to do, then go for it!” Our family is doing our best to make sure your memory lives on not only in our life but in the life of those who love you. 

You were a good guy, with a heart of gold. You believed the best in people. You were always willing to hear someone’s life story, including people we often overlook like the homeless. I know it was your time to leave this world, but I know deep in my heart that you would’ve done something great with your life. 

To me you will always be the little brother I protected. My partner in crime, when one of us had a terrible idea. You will always be the little boy that would stand next to me and hold my hand. I knew all three of us could face the world together because no matter what you had our back. And now you still do, just from a different angle. 

I love you always,

Your big sis.

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Those are just some of the things I wish I could tell my little brother. To all of you who have ever thought or are thinking about suicide, read this note again and again. My brother didn’t die of suicide, he passed away in his sleep. But the pain of losing someone is the same regardless of how you lose them, if not more when it’s a suicide. Please consider those you will be leaving behind when you make that decision. The pain it will bring them. Of course, my brother had no say in the matter, but I want you to know how it feels. How hard it is sometimes to just deal with a few hours in the day when you miss someone so much it physically hurts you. To end on a good note, just remember how much love is out there. Pain comes from love, and you can imagine how strong my pain is because of how much love I had. Sorry for the sad post but sometimes you just need to express how you really feel. If this helps one person out there, I will be happy.