Women are Kickass

Hi Everyone,

Lately I’ve seen a lot of videos talking about how awesome women are, and honestly I am LOVING IT! I’ll link below some of those videos.

Recently, a lot of spotlight has been brought on to women’s equality, a cause people have been fighting for, for a very long time. I feel that ever since the Emma Watson speech on what it actually means to be a feminist came out, more people have been open to the idea of being feminists. I think the stigma of being associated with Feminism has diminished because more people now understands what it actually means and can now support it. But I am not here to talk about that iconic Feminism talk, although the link is below if you have yet to watch or would like a refresher.

This post is going to focus on why women are so awesome. Here are a few reasons to support that statement.

1. First and foremost, let’s talk about the fact that once a month we bleed. And we are still alive. Can you wrap your head around that? Blood leaves our body once a month!

2. With that, comes intense pain. Horrible, miserable pain that hurts to even be still. It hurts to walk, it hurts to sit, it just hurts. And that’s the least that will happen. Some girls get nauseous or even faint.

3. And on top of that we deal with uncontrollable hormones. Hormones that make you cry for no reason or the smallest reason. It makes you rage like a lunatic. It makes you change moods so fast. And if you’re like me, you feel bad for having those mood swings, but in the end you have no control over it. But the worst part is men can be so insensitive about that. They either just assume every time we’re mad it’s because of PMS and not because something actually upset us. Or they get mad at us for the mood swings. Boys, please understand one thing, we have no control over how we react when hundreds of hormones are raging through our bodies making us act in ways we don’t necessarily want to be acting. All we want from you is for you to be understanding and treat us with kindness.

4. This is perhaps the biggest reason that we are so incredibly awesome: we create another human being inside our own bodies. Got that? One egg that we produce can becomes a fetus that develops into an actual human being. We are the reason humanity still exists.

5. We deal with prejudice, sexism, injustice, and unfairness almost on a daily basis. We are so strong, because even if one of those things upsets us we keep going. We get up every single day and tackle every single day. We know we are bound to face at least one of those issues if not all of them every single day. But we are fighters. We not only deal with those unfortunate events but we fight so that our daughters get better lives and more equality.

6. Women are fighters. They fight against all odds. They fight for what is right and just.

7. Even though we are fighters, we are also nurturing. If someone has a problem , I think a woman is more likely to lend a hand or an ear than a man. Nurturing is just in our nature.

8. We are faced everyday with how we should look and act from the media. It’s true that is also applies to men, but not as intensely or as often. We are bombarded with magazines, tv shows and on the internet that we are supposed to be skinny and tall and perfect. We deal with that on a daily basis, yet we are still preaching to love your own body.

9. We do get some pretty awesome perks. We can’t kid our selves. Typically at bars, we don’t have to wait in lines or get in at no charge or at a discounted rate. Which is awesome because that means we get to save money. We do get more clothes options than men. For all the travelers, as much as we want to assert our independence, sometimes it’s nice to get some help with that heavy luggage. Also we can go in groups to our typically bigger and nicer bathrooms. And I appreciate the privacy in having stalls in the bathroom, I don’t think  could pee in a urinal with someone 6 inches away from me being able to see everything. So there are a few perks here and there that make it pretty convenient to be a woman.

10. This one, I’m not going to lie, came from a friend: Emotional Capacity. Women are amazing at being able to express how they feel. (I hear all the pfftss and the boys shaking their heads, I see you.) But it’s true. When something bothers us or upsets us or makes us happy, we are capable of expressing how we really feel. Most guys are afraid to do so, or have a really hard time doing so. (Something that often creates a lot of tension between couples) Yes we can be a little crazy but at least we can talk about it. And most of the time we’re not afraid of feelings but instead embrace them.

All in all we are majestic magical beings. We are beautiful and strong. Even the girls you might think are fragile and dainty are pure strength inside. We will always fight the odds for what we believe in. And let’s be honest, for the most part we look good while kicking ass. (And I’m not referring to tight and leathery outfits. Girls are typically more graceful then men, and we’re hot!)

I hope you have enjoyed this post and learned a little something. Below are some links to videos you can watch!

Much Love Always,

xx

Links:

Buzzfeed: Things Men Are Secretly Jealous Of About Women (Although I don’t think it should be a secret.)

Emma Watson: UN Speech He For She (She basically wins at life)

AsapThought: Coming Out Twice (they talk about being gay, but also the sexist comments that are thrown at them about “being feminine”, it goes til about 4:49)

Always: Like a Girl (an incredible ad)

AsapScience: Do Periods Actually Make Women Moody? (every man should watch this video, it’s not gross I promise. It will simply enlighten you)

Recipe for a Better Morning

Had a rough morning? Follow this recipe to change your mood and have a better day.

Ingredients

1 CuteOverload Website

1 Cup of Coffee

1 Backstreet Boys soundtrack

Directions

1. Pour yourself a nice hot cup of coffee. Add sugar and cream to your liking.

2. Turn on the Backstreet Boys playlist provided above.

3. Browse through the irresistibly cute photos on cuteoverload.com.

4. By this point a smile you should have creeped on your face.

5. Remember other people’s comments or actions should not affect you because you are awesome! Remember smiling is the best ammo you’ll carry and that it is also the best medicine.

Much love always,

xx

Am I Just a Memory You’ve Forgotten?

Hello World (hope you’re listening),

Browsing through Facebook, it’s no surprise you see pictures of people you’re really close to and people you haven’t spoken to in at least 5 years. Facebook is a funny thing. It allows you to follow people’s lives as if you’re watching from a window. With each milestone in their life you congratulate them, as if you were walking down the street and you quickly walked past them and said congrats! While seeing those important moments in people’s lives, it makes you think about how you know them or memories you share with that person.

There are people that for one reason or another really impact your life. Maybe they were your first love, or your old best friend or maybe even just someone who offered you a seat at lunch on your first day at a new school. Whatever the reason that person affected your life, it has left a life long imprint. With time you’ve always had a special care for them, and that doesn’t necessarily mean that you still feel the same way about them.

For example, when I see pictures of my first love, it makes me smile. He is now married and has a baby, and seeing that baby makes me really happy for him. But I don’t have the same affection for him I had as a young girl. But he certainly left an imprint and I guess because of that I still have a special care for him. Even though, now that I think about it, we didn’t end in the best of terms. But that’s water under the bridge, because I chose to remember the good things.

And no matter what, every time you see a picture of that person who left an imprint on you, all those memories come rushing back and in some aspects you remember how that person made you feel. The more you remember them and the memories you shared the more it makes you think. It makes you ask yourself, what are the memories that person has of you? Did you impact their life the same way they impacted yours? How does that person remember you and how does that make them feel today? Or am I just a memory you’ve forgotten?

Sadly, sometimes the reality of things happen to be that the other party was too young and now has no memory of you. Something that has happened to me and broke my heart a little that they didn’t even remember who I was. But I guess that is life.

You are always left wondering if you should message them or not. Will they be weird about it if you do?

The truth is, regardless of what is happening in your life, every memory is precious. And thinking back to those memories allows you to take a trip down memory lane. And it reminds you of good times in your life and kind people. So I say, don’t be afraid to just drop a line. It doesn’t have to mean you go back to being friends, or anything like that, but it might brighten their day to know someone from their past is thinking about them. I know if it was with me, I’d be happy to hear from anyone who I have left on imprint upon.

That is all for today. Much love as always,

xx

Favorite Oscar Acceptance Speeches

Good Morning Everyone,

It’s Monday and you’re all getting a new post. WHAAA? But yes,I decided that today deserved a post. If you are a movie lover or an award show lover like me, then you watched the 87th Academy Awards, aka the Oscars. Typically, people talk about the best and worst dressed in blog posts. And I will not lie, I actually thought about making one of those posts too. But then I thought about Reese Witherspoon, who was lobbying for women to be asked about their projects and not they’re dresses (see #askhermore), and I was totally on board for that. So instead, I thought why not share my favorite Oscar acceptance speeches. The ones that moved me, gave me chills and stood out amongst the rest. In no particular order, here were my top 5 acceptance speeches.

1. John Legend & Common (Selma)

What more can I say. It’s incredible.

2. Graham Moore (The Imitation Game)

At first when he said he had attempted to kill himself I was like WOW. But then I got chills and applauded him for speaking up on such a huge stage. And he definitely made it one of the most memorable speeches.

3. Patricia Arquette (Boyhood)

Equal rights for all! Although, I think my favorite bit about the speech is Meryl Streep’s reaction. Meryl with that attitude I’ll follow you wherever!

4. JK Simmons (Whiplash)

Call your parents! First speech of the night and all he talked about was loving his wife, his family and to be grateful for your family. So refreshing.

5. Eddie Redmayne (The Theory of Everything)

COULD HE BE ANY CUTER?? He had the most real reaction out of the entire roster of winners. And he shone a light on ALS. He is perfect, and his talent is incredible. Thank you Eddie.

I think, more than anything, the speeches that aren’t just a list of thank yous are typically memorable ones. Some of these even incorporated the mandated thank you’s while sharing the limelight on different issues: ALS, Equal Rights, and Suicide Prevention. (Alzheimers was also mentioned in Julianne Moore’s acceptance speech.)  All issues that deserve attention and I’m glad people speak up about it on an international stage. Loving your family was also a theme brought on by several winners. It’s a theme that often should be spotlighted because it’s the support of those people that gets you far in life. Overall, I think the Oscars had it’s cut of thank you speeches, and the ones that stood out really were above and beyond. If there are any other speeches you think deserve to spotlighted.

As always much love,

xx

PS- Neil Patrick Harris was really great as a host. Who else, would come out on stage in nothing but tighty whiteys. And the opening musical number was incredible. Thank you.  Also, am totally on board to have Anna Kendrick host next year!

Click below for the opening number!

http://oscar.go.com/embed/VDKA0_wkk6z9w6

Making Lifestyle Improvements

Good Morning!

So this week I began something I’ve been actively avoiding for a long time, the gym. Working out has always been a struggle for me, but one I knew at some point I would have to face. So there are a few reasons I have to do it and a few reasons to keep me going. I wanted to share this journey with all of you in the hopes it gives you comfort to know you’re not alone, or some motivation. Or maybe even just a good laugh.

My reasons for this new improvement are simple:

1. I want a more toned and lean body. You might look at me and say “but you’re so skinny you don’t need to lose weight.” While you might see one thing, I see something very different. I love my body, so know that first. But none of us are really 100% happy with our body, and that’s okay, that’s normal. We will always find things we want to improve on ourselves. Mine comes in the shape of love handles. But more than that, because I eat a lot and don’t do much physical activity I started developing a slight belly, one that I would like to improve upon. Now notice I keep saying improve and not change. There isn’t anything I would like to change drastically but simply improve.

2. Perhaps the more important reason, is a physical one. Back in November, I discovered I had runners knee and had to do physical therapy to strengthen my legs and stop the knee pain. After ending physical therapy, my therapist said I needed to continue exercising for the rest of my life or else my knee pain would return. A month of not doing the mandated exercises, I noticed the pain started again. So I knew I couldn’t avoid it and decided to enroll in a gym.

3. My gym is 2 buildings down from work, it’s hard to avoid it. And my work street for some reason backs up for about an hour, so instead of sitting idly at work, or sitting in a car, I figured working out would be the best solution.

MY GOALS:

1. Lose about 10 pounds. Let’s get real honest here. I currently weigh about 130 and would love to go back down to 120. I’d be okay with 10 pounds if most of the weight I do gain is muscle mass.

2. Work out enough where my knees feel fine.

Motivations:

1. Cute boys at the gym. Call it superficial or stupid, I don’t care. Deep down we all know this is true! You see a cute boy at the gym, you work harder. If not harder, you probably start doing your exercises the most accurate you’ve ever done them. You want to look good, but also you want him to think you know what you’re doing. It gives you that extra push when you need it.

2. Before and after pictures. Taking those pictures allows you to see your improvements and work even harder to do look even better.

3. Music. Most of the people at the gym look in pain or miserable. While I know that if i don’t have fun when I go to the gym, the likelihood of me returning are very slim. So pick music you enjoy and don’t be afraid to lip sing and even dance a little. I’m sure soon enough I’ll be known in the gym as the weirdo who lip sings and dances while riding the bike. But hey at least I’m having a great time.

4. Feel good about yourself. Ultimately everyone works out to feel good about themselves. I am no different. I want to feel good and healthy and happy. (Even though I already am a very happy person.) :)

Overall, I am doing this for me and for things I want to accomplish in my life! I’ll keep you guys updated on how things are going at the gym!

Much love,

xx

Disconnect for A While

Hello Hello,

While I agree that our generation is better for it and it might play a huge part in our every day life, I’d like to make the argument that not all of my generation is attached to their phones. I can’t speak for my sister’s generation. Those kids REALLY don’t know how to live without phones. But my generation, meaning adults currently in their twenties, have the best of both worlds. While we have adapted and learned to incorporate phones into our lives, we remember a day when creativity and our minds were all that we had to use.

With modern technology, we have learned to use all the best of it while also being able to realize how much it affects our lives. I think it is interesting to note that we can admit and realize that we are addicted to our phones, but when it comes to it, we could survive without it. We realize what a big part of our lives it has become. And we also have the will power to disconnect from technology every so often. Teens and kids in today’s world, don’t realize how addicted they actually are and would completely fail at surviving without a phone.

I try very hard to limit how much I rely on my phone. On a daily basis, I leave it on my desk and look at it only every so often. When I am at home, I leave my phone in my room, and check it sparingly (much to the frustration of anyone trying to reach me). When I am out with friends or family, I leave my phone in my purse and focus only on the people around me. An act that often frustrates my parents when they are trying to reach me. Once out of the country, my phone is completely off and I rely solely on my wits and outgoing personality. I highly recommend people do this when they travel, it is such a liberating feeling and slightly scary, but so worth it.

When people think of my generation and even my own generation sometimes think we can’t survive without any form of technology. But the truth is, they don’t give us enough credit. I think our own self-awareness and ability to disconnect without freaking out shows just how good we are. And I think the more it’s coming to the public eye how much technology is integrated in our life, the more we are shocked and shy away from being labeled as dependents. So my generation, let’s keep this up. And while we’re at it, let’s teach the younger generation and future generations how much better life can be when you disconnect. It allows for human interaction, something we are slowly losing with future generations.

I dare you all to disconnect from your phones and laptops for at least one hour every night. Put it away and let yourself spend time with a friend, yourself or even your television. Or if you’re really daring, try to be creative. Write something, paint something, create something, bake something, or even crack open that coloring book you’ve been hiding in the bottom of that drawer. Just try to do something that doesn’t involve phones and computers.

Much Love,

xx

Special Friday: Valentine Blues?

Hello Hello,

Just wanted to send out a quick reminder to anyone who needs one.

Valentine’s Day is ultimately the holiday of love. While single people may loathe it and the consumer market has shifted the focus to couples, we ultimately forgot the reason behind this holiday.

Valentine’s Day isn’t about couples in love. The holiday is actually simply about sharing the love. Whether that is family love, friendship love, relationship love or love for a stranger. It’s one day a year where everyone gets to express all the love inside of them without it seeming weird.

So, if you’re feeling down about being single, remember all the people you love. And yes, that does include yourself! So be sure to treat yourself to something nice. Maybe that cupcake or that desert you’ve been dying to taste. Remind your friends why you love having them around. And show a little appreciation for the two people that would do anything in the world for you, your parents.

At the end of the day, “All we need is love.” And it’s all about the love, so spread it around!

Much love always,

xx

Recipe: My Valentine Date with Chris Evans

I have really exciting plans for this Valentine’s Day and I decided to share if you wanted to copy it.

Ingredients:

1 Captain America: The First Avenger

1 The Avengers

1 Captain America: The Winters Soldier (perfect for this weather, too)

1-3 Friends/Cousins

2-3 Bags of popcorn

1 Box of Chocolate

Candy (at your discretion)

Directions:

1. Plan a night in with your best friends or in my case my cousin will be in town.

2. Gather all the blankets, food and movies necessary to have yourself one of the greatest movie nights in.

3. Microwave all the popcorn and open all candy containers to avoid making noises during the movie, or stopping the movie.

4. There will be no bathroom break while watching each movie, so prepare yourself for such. Bathroom breaks should be conducted in between movies.

5. Sit back and press play and enjoy the tight leather suit that perfectly captures the perfection that is Chris Evans. And also enjoy the sarcasm and humor between all your favorite superheroes in The Avengers.

Note: Ingredients are interchangeable and quantities can change. Add to your liking.

Dear Single Friends,

I may have already posted something similar to this a while back, but I feel like this is something I constantly need to keep talking about.

Many friends of mine are worried about being single forever or for a very long time. Funny enough most of those friends are girls. Do guys not worry about this kind of stuff? Anyways, girls I say to you, IT’S OKAY! Keep reading below and hopefully after taking all this in you will be grateful you are single.

Everyone always says your 20s is the greatest time of your life. The longer I’ve been single, the more I’ve started to realize the true awesomeness of the single life. Here are a few reasons why your single 20s are awesome: you’re legal to drink, you are now an adult and respected as such (unless you are like me and look 15 and people don’t actually believe you are 24…), you have no kids, no big commitments and this is the time to make stupid mistakes. Now how does this relate to being single, well let me enlighten you.

1. You’re legal to drink. You can drink how much or how little you want without judgement. And when you do get stupid drunk you don’t have to worry about what your boyfriend/girlfriend is going to think. Also, you won’t have a drunk boyfriend/girlfriend to take care of or overreacting at the bar because some guy/girl looked at you. So go out and have a drink for me.

2. You are now an adult. You are an adult and you can act as such. Or you can act like a 5 year old, because WHO CARES?

3. No kids, no commitments. You have no responsibilities (other than the obvious responsibilities you have with yourself). Which means, if you want to go on a trip, you can. If you want to go out with your girlfriends, you can. If you want to move, you’re free to do so. Basically you are free to do exactly everything you want to do without worrying about someone else. So go chase that dream you’ve always had without worrying how it will affect your boyfriend/girlfriend. This also means pets. I know a lot of people get pets because they are lonely and want companionship. And while I absolutely adore dogs (like you don’t understand my obsession) I am yet to get a pet because of the responsibility that would constrict me to. You’ll have at least 50 years of that kind of responsibility when you have kids, why anticipate it?

4. You can make stupid mistakes. You can make many mistakes because in the end it will only affect you (and in some cases, depending on the mistake, the people around you). You will learn and grow. So take this chance to take yourself on this self discovery path. (It just got deep, I know, but it’s true.) Go out and get too drunk. Do that thing you think is a really good idea, that actually isn’t. (But please refrain from doing dangerous things, no one wants to see you hurt!) Take a chance on yourself. And ps- even if you do make mistakes just remember every action has a consequence so be ready for those too.

5. Really take this time for yourself. Really take time to learn about yourself, because the amazing thing is as people we are constantly growing and changing and evolving. We are never the same people we were yesterday. Take that trip you’ve always wanted to take. Start that project you’ve been pushing back on. Follow that dream you’ve always had. Make out with that stranger who you think is hot at the bar. Do whatever your little heart desires. And the cliche, but incredibly true, you can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself first.

6. You save SO much money. If you are anything like me, giving gifts makes you happy. But those presents aren’t free, they take your hard earned money. So this is time to spoil yourself. Get that beautiful dress. Go to that concert front row. Because I can guarantee when you have a significant other, or kids that’s where all your money ends up going.

7. You have way more free time. I can tell you first hand, how busy my friends are with their boyfriends. As soon as they get a boyfriend, time with themselves and their friends decreases immensely. Don’t get me wrong I’m super happy for them, but sometimes I just need my girls to go out with.

If you have read all of this and are still unconvinced and worried about being alone forever, here are a few more things.

Having a boyfriend is great. You get a cuddle buddy, a friend, someone to talk to, and a steady person you can get your freak on at any time. Believe me when I say, I understand how important those things are and how someone can really miss not having that. Being single sometimes is the worst. Like being the only single person at New Years and resorting to popping the champagne bottles because everyone else is kissing their significant other. Or constantly being a bridesmaid at weddings. Or always being the the third, fifth, seventh or in some case the eleventh wheel. But when you realize that you’ll have a partner for at least 50 years when you find the right person for you, being single til the end of your 20s doesn’t seem so bad. So, enjoy your freedom and new found excitement for life. This is the only time you’ll have to do exactly what you want without having to compromise with others.

My last bit of advice is, enjoy every single bit of your life exactly as it is. If you are single, enjoy it instead of pinning for what you don’t have. If you are in a relationship, enjoy your commitment to your partner. If you are dealing with a break-up, take everything you learned and apply it to your every day. (And if you are dealing with a break-up do a little something that makes you happy everyday, and the pain gets easier to deal with.) Whatever your situation is, really live in that moment, because every moment of our life is important. Things that are meant to happen will happen when they are meant to. So just be happy, that’s all that really matters in this life.

I hope you have enjoyed this post and learned a little from it. I hope it has helped you in some way. And just know, I’m always here to talk, to listen and to hopefully make you smile.

Much love always,

xx

PS- If you need just one more reason, you can watch all the tv and Netflix you want!

What Team?

Hello Hello,

So it’s Wednesday and I’ve been off my A-game as far as posting goes, but you know who was on their A-Game this weekend? THE PATRIOTS!

So after living in the US for 12 years I hadn’t found a football team I actually wanted to cheer for. In Michigan , college football is huge and while there we rooted for the Wolverines because my dad was at U of M. In Miami, because of my dislike of the city the Dolphins were never an option. And while in Illinois, da Bears never really spoke to me. But since I’ve been here, I think I’ve developed Pats Fever. (Don’t get me wrong I am not watching games or attending them, but just appreciating the team and the supporters.)

Could this be the Superbowl win high? Maybe. Could I be so excited because I’ve been watching the parade for the past 2 hours? Probably.

But either way, I love the love these people have for their team. Game days are holy. Loving the Patriots isn’t simply a sport, it’s a way of life! I appreciate that the fans recognize wins are based on luck but on hard work. The players are wholesome with sprinkles of crazy. This is a team I can definitely get on board with!

The love for this team is contagious and I want to be a part of this fan base. Regardless I’ve been a Brady fan for a while, but now I’m a Patriots fan.

It’s been a huge year so far, and I think becoming a fan would only add to the awesomeness.

Just thought I’d publicly declare my loyalty to the Patriots! I am now part of Patriot Nation! Woooo!

Stay tuned for a new post tomorrow!

Much love always,

xx