From pronouncing someone’s name right, to putting in your contacts, to getting over something or someone, it all takes time. More often than not, I hear from those that don’t wear contacts that they could never do it because they can’t stick their finger in their eyes. Or, when someone breaks up with us, we think ‘how are we ever going to get over this?’ Or when you attempt something you are not very good at, and immediately feel discouraged. Or trying to find a place to live, yet nothing seems to be working out. Every single one of these tasks has one thing in common, they take time. Whether you need time to learn, time to heal or time to let things happen when they’re meant to, they all require patience.
Some skills are inherent and take no time at all to perfect for some people. For example, I was one of those people that couldn’t imagine sticking my finger in my eye to put in a contact. Now I do it almost daily twice a day, to put the contact in and take it out. Or for example, when I try to learn a new name by repeating the name out loud my brain records it and remembers for next time. But it takes practice. You need to work at it every day, because truly you can do anything with enough practice. Now, you may not do them all perfectly, I am yet to master the art of doing a cat eye, but you can do it. So next time you feel discouraged at not being able to do something, think of all the things you’ve learned how to do and how if you want to you truly can do anything. And on the days where you feel truly discouraged, remember that little baby you learned how to crawl, walk, talk, eat and do everything you do today. If that isn’t enough of an incentive at what an awesome person you are, I don’t know what is.
Allowing time to heal from any relationship, romantic or otherwise, is a difficult task. Because as time goes on you question the relationship, the people around you, that person, your actions and worse of all yourself. Time creates self-doubt, which can be detrimental. But time also gives you a chance to realize how incredible you actually are and to build yourself back up. And when you build yourself back up, you tend to build a stronger version of you. So instead of being bitter about a failed relationship, you should really thank them for breaking you apart. Because that allowed you to learn and build up a stronger version of yourself, a more compassionate, understanding, loving, and intelligent version of you. Always try to remember that everyone in your life has a purpose whether it’s to make you happy, teach you a lesson, give you experience, or to give you memories, they’re all there for a reason.
But perhaps the hardest one for me, is allowing time for things to happen at their natural course. As an impatient person and a bit of a control freak, letting things out of my hands and take their course has been the biggest lessons in my life. I’ve had to learn to let things go and have faith that it will work out when it’s meant to. And if you’re anything like me, that is something I have to work at every single day. But the result is so worth it. And so I encourage you to take some weight off your back and know that things will happen whether it’s the way you want to or not, and all you can do is be comforted in the fact that in the end everything works out.
So take your time, use it wisely and know that time is your friend. It is there to help you sort out things, to heal and teach you lessons. Life may seem really short, but if you just take a moment to realize that in one year alone there are 365 days, 8,760 hours, 525,600 minutes, 31,536,000 seconds, then you realize just how much time and how many moments you have in this life. Use that time wisely and know that everything takes its course and that time is on your side, not against you.
Much love always,